Hello,<P>In order to ensure that my children are not in the company of this ow for even one second, would you subpoena ow to have her testify about her two dwi convictions and her 6 aliases?<P>My attorney says yes! I want to but I don't know if I can handle that scenerio. I so much do want to see her squirm--that is if she shows up... she can't lie about the facts...<BR>that are on record.<P>any similar experiences? elo

Hi elo,<P>I think we're the only two here at the moment. I live on the other side of the world and often chat away to myself!!<P>I have read of instances in your country where the judge can limit who the children spend time with. You're lucky, we don't have that here. Unless they're a convicted child molester, or prostitute or drug addict.<P>Maybe that would be enough. Although, the temptation of seeing them squirm would be pretty hard to say no to.<P>I guess you have to do what you have to do. DUI I would be concerned about. I wouldn't let my children in a car with anyone who had that conviction - let alone convicted more than once!!<P>I haven't got any experience of this, just wanted to reply and let you know you're not alone. Although I do have to go and pick up kids from school shortly.<P>Have a good sleep, when you get there!!<P>Jo<BR>No Way.

Well, I certainly would. Alias?!?! That kind of info deserves to be made public. I apologize for being so forward here but that was a concern of mine also. Can't prove it 100% but it showed up (about 4). <P>Also watch for a lot of P.O. Box addresses. Hm.... you really wonder where these kinds of persons get all this time to act out like they are living in a soap opera.<P>L.<P><BR>

elo,<P>I wouldn't bat an eyelash over bringing her into court. Don't forget, the issue you are bringing her in over is the safety, welfare, and protection of your children. Sounds like this woman's whole purpose in life is to serve as a bad example for others.<P>The line: "I don't know if I can handle that scenerio." might be a little confused. It happens to all of us, that is why we pay good money for lawyers to advise and guide us. This is going to be difficult, but try changing positions for a moment, and consider that just this one small aspect is not just about you, it is about protecting your children. Let the mama bear in you take over for a few moments. And please, let us know what you come up with.<P>Prayers and stuff,<P>Bumper

Elo,<BR> Hello im new to MB but wanted to put my 2 cents worth in.For your children you can handle this.Why would a "normal" person need aliases,this i dont understand.If you in anyway feel this person is a bad influence on your children its your responsiblity to do whatever it takes to insure the safety of your children.Good Luck,i will be praying for you.<P>------------------<BR>Tracy

elo,<P>You wrote: "to ensure that my children are not in the company of this ow for even one second"<P>Courage is not the lack of fear, it is fear plus action.<P>Bumper has it right: "Let the mama bear in you take over for a few moments." Do whatever it takes to protect your children, EVEN if you don't think you can handle what it will take to make it happen.<P>I understand how hard this must be for you. <P>Ragamuffin

Hello, all, <BR>Thanks for all of your input. You are all on the same page, on the same street, on the same level, and all in same boat on your position on this one.<P>I strongly feel, at this point, in what has been a hellish year, taht this person and my H need to be held accountable for their actions----------ESPECIALLY SINCE IT HAS PROFOUNDLY AFFECTED THE COURSE OF MY CHILDREN'S LIVES BECAUSE THEIR FATHER MADE THE STUPID AND IRRATIONAL DECISIONS TO DRIVE DRUNK WITH THIS OP IN HIS TRUCK AND THEN HAVE ACCIDENT--FOR WHICH SHE HAS HELD HIM IN BONDAGE. I AM CONVINCED THAT SHE IS MORE THE DRIVING FORCE AND MOVMENTUM BEHIND THIS DIVORCE THAN HIM.<P>They need to be held accountable because to the best of my knowledge--he has not been in detox---nor she yet after she was convicted of the second dwi, she was not supposed to,according to her terms of her conviction, be around or anywhere near alcohol--and she was working as a bartender when he met her--that is where they did their drinking.<P>I do not want my children to be anywhere near her--esp. if Clyde continues to keep company with Bonnie. I will ask that he only see them alone and sober.<P>I'll close for now. thanks, elo