A little history so you will understand where I am coming from. I've been widowed for 3 years after 32 years of marriage. 10 months ago I met a man through the internet, we met immediately thereafter and fell in love and I feel that I have been twice blessed. He had a very active social life - virtual and real - with women on the internet prior to our meeting.<BR> Now, my question. I feel that all contact with women, through chat,messaging or e-mailing, that he has been emotionally or physically involved with should end and for him to encourage contact by responding is not healthy in building a strong relationship. He says they're just friends, they know about me, and what he has related in his messages to them I have no reason to doubt that is where he is coming from, but I don't believe that is where some of them are coming from.<BR> Am I a victim of my age and times? Am I making a mountain out of a molehill? Can anyone shed some light on this before I embark on new living arrangements? <BR>

DiMar:<BR>I think you are absolutely correct, and I don't think it has to do with your age or the times. I am 32, and I would not want my significant other to maintain these types of relationships, either, even if he swears they're all innocent. I don't think they can exist with a really good relationship or marriage. I think most people on this forum would back you up as well.<P>Good luck,<BR>Kim