Hi, to all, esp to those who voiced their opinion as to whether I should have the ow receive a subpoena to have to answer about her criminal background/dwi's. hope judge will see why my children's best interest will be compromised if they are around this person. <P>Subpoena is in the mail. Someone actually warned me that ow might show some violence to me. I hope not. She will be sorry if she does. <P>It was a hard decision, but I came to a decisive answer when I thought of my children in her presence. I am repulsed. If I don't try to step in now, I could very well regret it later. So, I have to swallow a very bitter pill next Friday in order for my attorney to present the facts about the company my husband has chosen to co-habit with.<P>Will she show up? I have to stomach seeing them together in the courtroom. I have to listen to testimonies; we have the facts; they can't dispute them. She has two DWI convictions in Texas. She has been held in contempt, was in jail, left a treatment center, and was incarcerated again. <P>Unfortunately, this is a means to an end--the end being sole legal custody and visitation minus this ow --if she is still in parnership with my H. Also, unfortunately, it will be the end of my marriage as chosen by H.<P>My best hope which I doubt very seriously will happen is for her to split...no such luck...with her con-person ways,<BR>she will probably have no qualms about showing herself in court to flaunt to me that she stole my husband away from me. It will hurt me terribly and deeply. But she is trash and I know there is no substance to that relationship. But<BR>apparently, whatever it is she provides my H, it outweighs<BR>more than annoyances--at least for now. The scale will tip and the reverse will take place--but not before a divorce.<P>Of course, she has been through marriage and divorce three times. She is so used to this. Me? I have had one marriage and I do not want this divorce. In fact, today is our 21st weddding anniversary. And I foolishly entertained the thought that he might acknowledge it. Yes, I am stupid. He did acknowledge it last June after he had been with her for three months. Now, after 14 months, and he having started and stopped the divorce twice, it is going to happen on June 15. <P>I can't pretend it doesn't matter. It hurts so much, and I know I will cry in that courtroom next Friday. It will not affect my hardened husband who has his own selfish agenda...<P>Anyone ever subpoena the op?<P>thanks, elo