Well, I finally went to see an attorney, after recieving divorce papers in the mail. Turns out these are just the "terms of divorce" and I guess my H thought I would just sign them and return them with NO fight! Silly man!<BR> Seriously, folks, I thought that was IT. I thought we could be just days away from actually divorcing. NO! Nothing could be further from the truth. I haven't been "served" with papers (for a court date, etc). THAT will cost him waaay more money (which he doesn't have), so if he wants this to go forward, he will have to either earn it, or borrow it from OW to continue.<BR> This has given me so much more peace of mind. My H believes that somehow he is never going to have to see or speak with me again his whole entire life! At least that's the impression I'm getting with the way he left, and won't take my cell phone calls when I leave messages. Soooo, I don't have to do anything at all right now! I figure time is the best thing to lift him out of the "fog" he's in, and while I do nothing, he'll have to do a whole lot more than he's done so far to end this marriage. <BR> I'm praying that's when he'll stop and think about if this is really what he wants to do.<BR> I'm feeling very peaceful right now, of course, if I DO get served with divorce papers, I'll probably backtrack straight down to my deep depression all over again.