I got notice from the Superior Court of NJ that I am scheduled for a "Default" hearing on June 28th.<P>Default of course, because my H decided to do nothing about my filing. <P>Anyone out there have any kind of experience or knowledge?<P>------------------<BR><I>Pain is a given, misery is optional.</I>

Hi BrambleRose-<P>I will also have to get a default hearing scheduled because like your husband, my husband also decided to ignore my filing. I really don't understand this because he's the one that wanted a divorce so bad in the first place.<P>I'm not very knowledgeable about this either, but the one thing I do know is by them not responding to the filing, it will make things a little more favorable on our behalf.<P>So hang in there. We're going to make it through this. What doesn't kill us will only make us stronger!<P>Hugs,<BR>Roxy

Hi, <P>Default hearing? <P>So, if I did retain an attorney to answer my H petition, I am in a more favorable position, perhaps?<P>If I had not answered his petition, would I be in the same position as you are now..a default hearing...then the spouse has to get an attorney to appear at the default hearing?<P>Just curious about your comments regarding the person who filed being in a better position if their spouse did not retain an attorney to answer your filing.<P>I know this could be different in other states.<P>When my H filed for the 3rd time (after stopping two hearings), he has caused us both to incur legal expenses that are outrageous. MOney has to come from somewhere and I have had to take it from money I needed for my children.<P>If I had not answered, I would have been letting him walk all over me. I had to wake up and take a stand on what I believe is important and to reveal the truth about many issues.<P>If a spouse doesn't answer (like yours), you are saying that you are in a better to position to receive what you ask for since they didn't respond.<P>Just felt like expressing my two cents.<BR>elo