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Joined:  Sep 1999 Posts: 5,406 Member |  
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For those who had followed my story...<BR>...just an update.<P>History:<BR>My stepson's biological father(BF) found his son in July of 2000 (my xW moved out August of 1999).<BR>My xW always wanted to keep his BF away from his son...<BR>...she claimed BF was a stalker, serial-killer, and went as far as claiming an alleged rape toward the end of <B>their</B> marriage (claim made weekend before my divorce with xW)<P>xW agreed reluctantly (after 11 months) to have a meeting with...<BR>son/xW/OM/BF/BF's girlfriend...<P>WOW...<P>Now the update:<P>And today was the day!<P>No fighting...<BR>BF focused only on the time talking with his son (my stepson)...<BR>...<B>all went well</B>...   ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif) <BR>(45 minutes only... but it's a start)<P>OM... typical... no handshakes...<BR>...and could only say (they met at a local diner) unceremoniously... "I just lost my appetite"!<P>BF says... xW... looked "bad"... drawn face... sad/angry attitude... depressed...<BR>BF says... OM... couldn't be more rude... (other than the name-calling I usually got!)<P>Now... a more "normal" relationship... healthy relationship... between my stepson and his BF... is possible.<BR>I hope less anger will result from my son....<BR>...and little bit of reality about all his mom's lies.<P>Life will be getting better for all!<P>  ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif) <P>Jim |  |  |  
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Joined:  Dec 1999 Posts: 163 Member |  
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Jim,<P>Thats great news. You are truly a blessing to those kids.  <P><BR> |  |  |  
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Joined:  Mar 2001 Posts: 845 Member |  
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Hi Jim...<P>I've been following along when I can (actually, you were the first person to post to me when I started   ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif)  )... truly you are a God-send to that child.  I'm so glad to hear about committed fathers like yourself.  I don't have the "authority" to say this in it's truest form but my first thought... "well done good and faithful..."<P>Peace, peace and more peace to you and your family...<P>------------------<BR>We cannot do everything at once... but we can do something at once |  |  |  
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Joined:  Jan 2000 Posts: 80 Member |  
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You are truly a remarkable man to there for that boy with all the problems.  <P>Wish there were more stepfathers like you.<P>God bless you.<P>Martha |  |  |  
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Joined:  Oct 1999 Posts: 1,832 Member |  
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Jim,<P>  ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif) <P>Desiree<P>------------------<BR>"Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles and kindnesses and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort."<P>Sir Humphry Davy<BR> |  |  |  
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Joined:  Apr 1999 Posts: 587 Member |  
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That is wonderful! Sounds like a great start. Thank you for the update, I appreciate it.   ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/grin.gif) <P>God is good. <P> |  |  |  
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Joined:  Aug 2000 Posts: 1,244 Member |  
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Jim,<P>Nice to hear it went well.  You are a great guy.<P>  ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif) |  |  |  
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Joined:  May 2001 Posts: 3,397 Member |  
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JIM!   ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/grin.gif) <P>How's the job going? |  |  |  Moderated by  Ariel , BerlinMB , Denali , Fordude , IrishGreen , MBeliever , MBsurvivor , MBSync , McLovin , Mizar , PhoenixMB , Toujours 
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