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I'm about 24 hours from committing a major bust (ie. unleashing hell on my W). W & I separated, she's 1000 mile away with kids...I'm supposed to have unlimited phone contact with the kids and everytime I call I get the answering machine. It's been going on for the past 2.5 weeks (since our separation was final). Never a call back letting me know of good time and does not respond to emails. I know she gets the messages. It's killing me...I have never been this long without speaking with the kids and I'm very frustrated. <P>Needless to say I'm furious but maintaining composure for now (exercising PATIENCE). Her mother did the exact same thing to my W's biological father when my W was the same age as our kids are now(ie made it very difficult for any relationship). My W still feels the pain and loss from no BF contact for so many years. And now she's now following her mother's footsteps...something she never wanted to do. <P>It's truly unbelieveable but follows the cliche "Go with what you know." On the positive side I'll be seeing the kids later this week (Fri-sun). Suggestions before I blow a vein in my head?<P>dd<P>
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How old are the kids? Can you work out something separately with them? Are they old enough to give them a phone card or ask them to call you collect? Do you have a court order? Could you talk to your attorney or take her back to court?<P>This must be so frustrating with them so far away.
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The kids are 3 & 6 yo. The terms of visitation were left ambiguous, the separation was amicable. If I go to court two things will happen. 1. Our marriage will totally dissolve. 2. It will be uglier than War of the Roses.<P>I not ready to give up but having the kids in the middle is making me crazy. What's worse her teacher (mother) was visiting all last week. Obviously she got some pointers.<P>dd
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It sounds like you may be forced to make some tough decisions. I don't know why you chose to move 1000 miles away from your kids, since it makes things much more difficult for you, but the bottom line is that there is no way you can force your wife to honor her agreements without the risk of antagonizing her.<BR>
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Gnome, <BR>Not really a longterm choice...she got an offer in a place we were willing to go. It was understood that I will follow when a job opening appears for me.<P>dd
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