My sister-in-law is at wits end, and is going to see a divorce attorney tomorrow. My wife & I want her to cool down and wait, but we are at a loss as to how to get her to do so. With her problem, Harley's ideas seem the right path to me. However, we need something NOW to get her to sit back for a second and think things through before hastily messing things up for good. Here's her situation...<P>Her husband just bought a $7k "toy" for himself while on the road (he's a trucker), a motorcycle "he's always wanted." He got it without consulting her, took out a loan himself, and got it the day after telling his family that there was no way they could buy anything for some time in order to save $ for other major purchases (new car, etc.). <P>My "sis" became furious, not believing he could be so selfish and inconsiderate to do such a thing without discussing it with her, not to mention the added financial burden. She has put up with a few affairs of his, some violent behavior from drinking (but he has quit), etc., etc. She is fed up and feels this is the last straw. She told him he has to choose between the cycle, or his family. His only response, "I'm keeping the cycle." Therefore, the attorney. He is on the road for an extended period so the whole matter between them is dealt with over the phone. <P>I've been to this web site myself for my own marriage problems, and feel the principles are excellent. I've been trying to convey to her what my wife & I have learned, but feel kind of helpless. I have (2) tape sets for her on the way (H/H Needs & Give/Take), but it seems like this may be too late. Any ideas how to help her at this very moment? (she does not have internet access, otherwise I would send her here)<P>
