Very, very confused. Last night my husband went out with some friends, this upset me so, I got down on the ground and prayed that the blood of Jesus cover our marriage. Before I did that, I locked all of the screen doors, so he could not get back in the house easily. When he did come in, he woke me and told me that he wanted a divorce and that he hated me. I dont believe what I did was as unjust as him, staying out with friends till 330am. <P>I truely didnt think he would be as mad as he was, saying he hated me. He told me everything that he hated about me and that he doesnt even like having sex with me. He totally dogged me.<P>Where my confusion comes in is that, just yesterday, he was so in love with me. And last night, he told me to go file for a divorce this Monday. I am even more confused because, because I have prayed to God, to protect our marriage.<P>I do not want a divorce... I dont think he meant those things he said. I just think he was embarassed because he was locked out and his buddy was present. ...And of course, I could be wrong.... I need advice...<BR>

Solo,<P>I think some more info might help here. Has this going out been a pattern or is it a one time thing. <P>Why did it upset you so much?<P>Do you feel that he has been distant emotionally lately?<P>Just coming home and saying he hates you seems pretty radical?<P>Do you suspect he is having an affair?<P>We want to help but I would like to know a little more.<P>What I will say now is <B>don't file</B>. Don't you dare let him bully you into doing this. From what I see here and in my own situation the spouse leaving wants you to file to alleviate guilt and to be able to say later that you filed. If he is really serious then let him do all the work.<P><BR>Also read all the material on this site. There is a ton of good info and will give you ways to start working on saving your marriage.<P>So sorry to see you here under these circumstances.<P>Take Care.<P>

Solo,<P>Hope today finds you in better circumstances. Like HopelessAZ said, more info would be helpfull. <P>There are a lot of great people here who really care and who have some excellent advise.<BR><P>------------------<BR>Love, Bill<P>-There are none so blind as those who refuse to see!-<BR>-Stand up and do the right thing, even if your standing alone.-