Well, my realator just left. Now I have to get H to sign the listing papers. He wants to get his own agent to look at the house since I did this without him and lied to him about it.<P>we were supposed to go to court next week but his atty will be in court so it is postponed one month. So now I still have nothing. Good thing for my credit card. The Ford motor co is coming to get my car pretty soon. He is almost 3 months behind in payments.<P>The other day, H was SOOOOOO ANGRY at me for asking him to prove, by a note from his employer, that he was out of town for work (this all started before his atty was in court). Well, basically he lied. He is going on vacation. He lied to his atty and ME. But he is sly enought to forge a note from his employer. He ranted and raved at me for about 1/2 hour and most of the time I wasn't listening. I sort of was chuckling because he was so mad. CAUGHT! Liar , Liar pants really on fire. What a good dad he is wanting not to spend time with his kids so he can vacation with ??? <P>He is so full of himself. He actually disgusts me. He lies so much I doubt he knows what the truth is anymore. It is interesting because he still is trying to blame me for the divorce. I am the one making it bloody.<P>My H is a self absorbed man. OH, he asked God for forgiveness and he thinks he will get it. I didn<BR>'t want to say you don't even know what that means but I laughed to my self. I actually feel sorry for my children that their father is this man. While I never expected for him to be an adulterer , I never expected him to be proud of the way he is living because the kids are happy and he is looking out for the best interests.<P>As far as blood is thicker than marriage, I think that feeling is also a self absorbing thing on his parents part. They are enabling my H to prance about as an adulterer in front of my children. They are afraid of losing him? People like that really have no principles or values or morals. They can't be afraid of not seeing the kids because I am letting them. <P>I am in a ranting and raving mood.<P>hopelessmom

Would you puh-leeze change your handle? How about: had_enough_of_his_BS, or not_gonna_take_it_anymore, or anything. <P>Have you read 'Love Must Be Tough' by Dr. James Dobson? I think you should, but set aside enough time to go cover to cover, get some Kleenex, and don't accept any distractions. Yes, you are COMPLETELY TO BLAME...hello. [I mean, you MUST be, right? Otherwise, he has some responsibility, doesn't he?] So, yes, she is just helping him douse that fire in his pants! You are the victim here, that is obvious; just don't be too victimized by all of it. The danger about your misery is that you hold on to it...you own it too much, as do I. Your H may be self absorbed, but you are obsessing on him right now. I do that too, BTW. Let's talk about YOU for a change...how are you? How do you feel about you? If you could make all of this go away, where would you be? What would you be doing? Time for you to get a little self-absorbed. We're waiting...<p>[This message has been edited by waiting_for_her (edited June 19, 2001).]

(((((((hopelessmom))))))))<P>My sponsor often says to me that if I can't let go of my husband, then I should just let go and "let God get 'em!"<P>I usually start to giggle at the thought of God "gettin 'em" and it helps.<P>--BR<P>------------------<BR><I>Pain is a given, misery is optional.</I>