Well, I have been looking at these boards for months. I just haven't had the courage to post my story. Now I feel it's too late.<P>My H has been cheating on me with one of his friends from the gym he goes to. (I wonder if she's the only one.) He throws his life into making his body look good and not into me or our two boys. He has filed for a divorce and I'm not sure where to go from here.<P>We will have been married 7 years in October. How can this happen to me? I'm so hurt and frustrated. I can't care for my two boys by myself, but then I guess I have been for years.<P>I've gained alot of weight with the kids and I think he's only attracted to the OW for her slender build and dimwitted mind.<P>Is it too late to try to fix this. I love my H dearly and I don't want to lose him. I know that this sounds weak, but I really need him!<P>Someone, please help me!<P>H&L

<BR>Hello and Welcome to Marriage Builders!<P>First, I would like to share two links with you. Just click on the underlined links here, and read –><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi10_tour.html" TARGET=_blank>Tour of Marriage Builders</A> and <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000553.html" TARGET=_blank>General Welcome</A>. <P>Please read everything you can on this site, post and read often!! <P>I have been betrayed and betrayer, so I have the dubious honor of knowing what infidelity does from BOTH SIDES of the situation. <P>I believe in the concepts espoused here, if applied properly. One idea that has worked *wonders* for some couples is Plan A. Read about it here –><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>What Are Plan A and Plan B</A>.<P>Use what you learn here to make your marriage a safe place where you do your best to meet the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3300_needs.html" TARGET=_blank>Emotional Needs</A> of your spouse,and avoid <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3400_lovebust.html" TARGET=_blank>Love Busters</A> whenever possible. . When a decision must be made, use the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3500_policy.html" TARGET=_blank>POJA</A> to determine the final outcome that you can both agree upon.<P>Many couples find that counseling is VERY helpful, and the counseling provided here is excellent for several reasons; but the most important is that it goes along with the concepts here. Check it out here –> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7000_counsel.html" TARGET=_blank>Counsel Link</A><P>Again, welcome to our community, and feel free to write often and ask lots of questions!<P><B>ABOUT YOUR POST</B><P>No, you're not to late to try!! You've been reading for awhile, so you probably know about Plan A.. it's to be used WHILE THE AFFAIR IS HAPPENING... read about it by clicking on the link above (all links are read, underlined).<P>I am so sorry for your pain...<P><P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>And we know. We who have seen. ~Pellegrino