Last Monday was our court date (the 18th) and H told his Mom that he is getting married this weekend to OW!!! His family had me over Friday night to tell me. Background:H walked out abruptly November 10th-never returned or anything, I went into counseling Plan A'd but had to start Plan B because H was not around at all, I was forced into a dissolution because of financial matters and H threatening me with financial stuff. Now he is getting married-Yippee!! His brother is getting married in Alabama this weekend and ExH and OW are getting married in Kentucky on the way back. Any support or words of wisdom are highly welcomed right now!!!

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by White Dove:<BR><B>Last Monday was our court date (the 18th) and H told his Mom that he is getting married this weekend to OW!!! His family had me over Friday night to tell me. Background:H walked out abruptly November 10th-never returned or anything, I went into counseling Plan A'd but had to start Plan B because H was not around at all, I was forced into a dissolution because of financial matters and H threatening me with financial stuff. Now he is getting married-Yippee!! His brother is getting married in Alabama this weekend and ExH and OW are getting married in Kentucky on the way back. Any support or words of wisdom are highly welcomed right now!!! </B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P><BR>How ironic the samething happened to me with me X-H. Whitedove the only words right now I can give you. Is cast your cares upon Hod because he cares. I no you may not want to her this now. But you have to find strength in our creator. I no it is dark in you life right now. Believe this and no this It want last. The reason I can say this is because he left a marriage to go into another marrige he did not give his self time to heal. The storms are coming in your life right now, and it seems that it getting severe, but if you take hold to GOd hands he will guide you through this storm. White dove right now you got to trust him. <P>I am praying for you right now. Lord take control of this marriage, you joined it together and you said in you word let no man put assunder. This sister in christ needs to her from you. Open her heart and mind to recieve what you have for. Give her peace where the strom is raging. Give her understanding where she is confused. Touch heal and deliever her H from the wilds of the devil that has taken over this marriage. I rebuke the devil in the name of Jesus. I pray this prayer in the name of Jesus.<P>White Dove believe in God and he will deliever you from this storm.<P>Go in peace,<BR>(((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))<BR>I am here for you.<P>

I don't know about the laws where you live, but in Texas a minimum of 30 days must pass before remarriage.<P>It's good that your X's parents keep in contact. What do they think? Do they think he's out of his mind?<P>Remarried so soon. Let me do the math here. Clickety, clickety, click. 85% of marriages occuring withing 2 years of divorce fail. 60%-75% (depending on source) of second marriages fail. Only 10% of those who divorce to marry lover actually do. Of those that do, 75% of those marriages fail. 18% of those that divorce remarry. You are roughly 6-7 times more likely to remarry him than for his new marriage to work. (not that you'd want to)<P>Is he getting married now to be like his brother? <P>Why doesn't he just get married in Nowheresville, because that's where his marriage is going.<P>I feel for you. My XW is still seeing the OM. Look on the bright side, you don't live with a [censored] anymore.<P>Kevin<P>

White Dove<BR>My exH wanted to marry his OW about a week after our divorce but had to postpone their wedding for about a month because they were not sure our divorce would be final by their January 1, 2001 wedding date. Instead they were married on January 27, 2001 (we were divorced 12/20/00).<P>I have also read all the information about the unlikelihood of affair marriages working but I think that each couple is unique. I feel that in my exH's case he is going to really try (for awhile) to make this one last because of his huge ego and all the chaos our divorce caused.<P>I feel for you - rejection is just the pits and being replaced so soon is soooo hard. I am just working at filling the hole in my life that used to be my marriage and doing the best I can for myself and my 11 yo D. I will be thinking good thoughts for you.

WD,<P>Apparently, misery loves company. My divorce was final May4th and my ex just got remarried this last weekend. 9 and 1/2 months almost to the day from when he moved out saying there was a problem. Well, the problem had a name.<P>No words of advice other than to remember he's probably going to get exactly what he deserves.<P>Lisa

Thank you all for being here for me. I go back in forth with this in my emotions. No I don't want this relationship to work. I hope the odds are right. However, the fact of the matter is that they have lasted this long and the odds were against them: The odds: she is 6 yrs older than us, has 3 kids -we had none-went thru her second divorce, Is the exact opposite as me-is known as a slub and b*tch around this small town, his family has not accepted her,and he is the baby sitter and was layed off during this time, despite all of this they have lasted for 8 months and have shown their relationship in public since April. I have to face the fact that they may be that small percentage that might make it. It urks me to know I am going thru all this pain and counseling and they are planning a new life. I do need to go on with my life and have been doing so-I guess I took a step back these last couple of weeks because of court and this announcement. Today I have a big counseling session because I have not cried or anything over this final stage. I know God is with me and my friends here. <P>Kevin, His parents are upset and told him that this is his brothers weekend and he is not to try and wreck it with this announcement. They are embarrassed by it , I think. I do not know why they chose this weekend or Kentucky. Everyone believes ExH has lost his mind. The bright side is I do not have to live with him anymore. I knwo there are better men out there. Someday I may venture to see but for right now I need to learn about myself. (And I hate this time!! but it has to be done if I ever want another realtionship!!!) <P>Thank you all for your prayers and support!!!! <p>[This message has been edited by White Dove (edited June 25, 2001).]