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I am so angry at my WH. I have been doing so well for the past 4 months that he has been moved out and out of contact totally. He filed for D about 6 weeks ago and today I got papers that he listed as the break up of our marriage the fact that I went to lunch with my supervisor at work over 5 years ago. He didn't even list his affair of which went on for l5 months and I caught him at her house. Why can they not be truthful and admit what they did! I hate him so much and cannot believe how sick he really is? Do they ever admit what they did and the damage that they have done?<BR>HELP!!!
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Sometimes it helps me to feel a little bit of pity for our WSes. They are often in extreme denial to overcome their guilt. They sometimes do unbelievably cruel or thoughtless things for escape. A spouse who would have done anything for you in the past can lie like a rug to justify their actions to themselves. I sometimes feel it's so pathetic.<P>In my case, her current actions and feelings are for a large part because of me. But I can fix myself. That's the control I have. She can choose to fix herself or not. That's not part of my control, though I have sometimes tried to take control there with disastrous results.<P>I do all I can to remind myself and teach myself with other's help how to take the high road, so that there is no need to apologize for anything.
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Thanxs, TryingToBMe: I too have tried to be obedient to my wedding vows and my children, but most of all to my God. It just hurts so bad to be treated so badly after l9 years of marriage. I hate feeling this way and know that I have nothing to be ashamed of and will try to live in the truth and never hurt someone the way I have been hurt. It is so very sad for my children to see their father act the way he does. I do know some day he will be so sorry and he can never get this year and a half back and never repair the damage he has caused. Amen, to becoming a better person, I fully intend to do that, thanks for your comments and good luck to you. I trully believe that God has great things in store for the future!!!
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