Since my wife and I have been separated I have gotten email from this site called crushlink, it stated that someone has a crush on me. I brushed it off thinking it was probably sent to me by mistake, but a few days later I received an email with a hint. It said "the persons name starts with a letter between the letters A and E". I felt shocked because the nickname I called my wife started with a C. But if I guess who it is then an email gets sent to all the people you guess that it could be. That would violate the order against me so I left it alone. That was a few months ago, it was in the backburner of my mind, but then a few days ago I got another email from crushlink with another hint, it said "the name of the person has eight letters or more in the name". Now once again I feel shocked because the nickname of my wife has exactly eight letters in it. Of course I cant respond with a guess that its her, or I could get in trouble. If its not her than its a huge coincidence and a misdirected email. If it is her some might think that its a childish way to try and communicate but not me, it would be great just to know she still wants this to work. But anyways let me know what you think<P>knownaim

I think it's junk mail and should be discarded as such.<BR>

Unsubscribe from that email list... get rid of it... also, consider getting a new email account that nobody you know has the address to. Junk mail seems to really hit my older account. I never get any at the new account.<P>Just a thought.

You are not doing as you've been told. You were told to move beyond this crap, and yet you can't. Mike...look here's the bullet: This is not junior high school, this is YOUR MARRIAGE. A crush? What the he!! are you talking about? This is serious, friend, and you are justifying continuing pursuit by coming here, and yakking about e-mails, and all of that. What you need to be doing is getting out of your parents' house, into a decent career, and stop pursuing your wife. Also, quit looking for validation here, get it from the righteousness of your actions, and BE HUMBLE ABOUT THAT WHILE YOU ARE AT IT.<P>You think it is different for you, well...its not. You are hurt, and want to latch onto something. That's understandable. You are young and confused, that's understandable, too. What is not understandable is that you continue along the same path, even though it is clearly labelled 'No Trespassing...this means you.' What, do you think she wants you to do all of this, and then will take you back? Not true, Mike, not true. Confusion is understandable, use this rule to guide you:<BR> Don't say, or do the first thing that occurs to you. Be patient and wait for the proper answer to bubble up. Most of what you are needing to do now DOES NOT involve her at all. You need to go back, make yourself better (and more attractive to her in the process), and see what SHE does. That is all you can do to help, anything else is a hinderance.<P>C'mon, Mike...you know I'm right here. Stop waffling, and be a man. Plan A....this stuff is juvenile, put it down. NOW.<P> Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, it is not inflated, it is not rude, it does not seek its own interests, it is not quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury, it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, endures all things. Love never fails...When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face; now I knoweth in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known. And now abideth faith, hope and love, these three, but the greatest of these is love. I Corinthians 13, paraphrased.<P>What does this tell you, Mike? Put away those childish things. Do it today.<p>[This message has been edited by waiting_for_her (edited June 27, 2001).]

I think you guys are being a little harsh. Although I agree that the crush thing is a bit childish, it does give him hope that maybe his wife is coming around. We are all here to support eachother. I think you can offer opinions in a friendlier manner! <BR>My opinion is that you should ignore these e-mails. Although it could be your W, it could also be someone playing a cruel joke. You need to concentrate on yourself right now. Work at being the kind of husband that will win your wife back. Participating in websites like this will only drag you down and take the focus away from what you really should be doing to reconnect with your wife. Hang in there.<BR>June<p>[This message has been edited by junebug622 (edited June 27, 2001).]