Mr Palaski,<P>By all means tell confused to ignore what I had to say, and anyone else's post that does not align with yours. Perhaps I told confused things he did not want to hear, and maybe it did scare him, however I feel one should hear many different views on a subject and then make up their minds towards a solution. Go back and read my posts...I encouraged him to leave no stone unturned and try to save his marriage. I was simply telling him how I felt as a wife and woman, who had gone thru a similar situation. And no I am not in denial as to how I felt about my husband or why I fell out of love with him, as you stated in your post. Sometimes love is not strong enough to last, yet a woman or man will go thru the motions to avoid conflict or hurting children and husband. Finally when you get the courage to be honest and stop living a lie, then you let it all out. This happens sometimes regardless if another person is involved or not. When I thought of killing myself, then i knew it was time to get out of the marriage. I think you should refrain from making hurtful comments about anothers posts, and if we are not free to voice our opinions on this forum, then why indeed does it exist at all? <BR>Sincerely, jonquil

jonquil, i've read only your post here so i don't know this whole story. i simply want to say that i agree with your positon on expressing our honest opiniones on issues in order to offer someone numerous views on any given issue. i find all responses to my posts interesting and helpful. sometimes i don't like what i read and may not agree but the different view is appreciated. however, i wish respondents would not post nasty, insensitive, and malicious responses. but even with those, i try to assume i'm misunderstanding the intended message thinking the response wwas meant to be helpful. i'm now going to go back and read some of your story. bye

frankie,<P>thanks for the post. I suppose I should just ignore people who say rude things. It was quite clear what Mr Palaski meant, and it hurt me. After all I didnt tell confused to go jump off a bridge or worse, and I dont think my post deserved his backlash. After I saw I wasnt helping confused I stopped posting and others gave him better advise I suppose, but critizing mine was completely unessessary. I'm just venting...and feel better for doing it.