I know how you feel. In the beginning, I was all giving to my husband. He took that for granted, and now I'm still giving, but I look out for my needs too. <P>When he slipped into his selfishness, I acknowledged it and went back to whatever I was doing, like it didn't matter. Consequently, he has been an angel ever since. <P>I'm not saying that this would work for you, but it did work for me, and I'm pretty happy. It made him realize that there is more to my life than just him, and he had to face the fact that he wan't treating me right, and might lose me. <P>