Has anyone who is near the finalization of a divorce or actually divorced written the XS a goodbye letter? Did you send it? Would you send it?

Yes. I wrote her a good-bye letter, actually I wrote her that one and one on our anniversary. Our divorce will be final in 7 days. After it's all said and done I may even write her another depending on how we agree on some issue's. I've written many letters I didn't send but I did send her those two. They were more for me than for her, but the knowledge that she read them, and that someday when the fog lifts she'll realize what she gave up.<BR><P>------------------<BR>Love, Bill<P>-There are none so blind as those who refuse to see!-<BR>-Stand up and do the right thing, even if your standing alone.-

Thanks Bill, I appreciate your response. I agree the letter would be for me, my attempt at closure for me... I am really enjoying my life, but it seems that this is still an open issue I want to say goodbye and start on my next journey...one which may lead me to a companion that is more open and honest and when put to the test chooses the right path.<P>I hope you are feeling better. I just heard the Don Henley song (I am a big Don Henley fan!) on the radio. I think the song is called the heart of the matter...anyway...I thougt of your plight right now, the pain, it will get easier...I promise... I am no longer hiding out in the womens handicap stall <P>Take care<BR>Christine

Funny this should pop up today- I composed a letter just yesterday! I don't know if it's a goodbye letter, or sort of a closure letter (for my sake- like Bill's). It's a short one (1/2 page), mostly to say that I am here for you if you'd like to talk or maybe work on any issues (regardless of where it may go), and that I wish her well. I've been divorced 8 months (I'm a guy), but we've seen each other every month or so to take care of "stuff" (taxes, money, got the wrong box, etc) up until a couple months ago. I tried to write it in a loving, kind, non-guilting manner! I plan on sending within the next few days.

Thought I'd share one of my letters with you. I gave her this letter on our 12th anniv a little over a month ago.<P>My dearest Lisa, <P> I never thought we would spend our anniversary going through divorce proceedings, but here we are. The road we traveled in our journey through time hasn’t been without its ups and downs. Though at times it has been rough, the rewards we received along the way made our road worth the travel. I want to thank you for the wonderful years that were given us. As I reflect on our lives together, my heart fills with joy. There are so many good memories I will cherish for as long as I walk this earth. We grew up together, and you were my first true love. We went out into the world and made a beautiful family. I can’t put into words the elation I feel as I <BR>reminisce days gone by. My emotions overwhelm me. Garth Brooks summed up the past twelve years better than I ever could: <P>THE DANCE <BR>Looking back on the memory of <BR>The dance we shared beneath the stars above <BR>For a moment all the world was right <BR>How could I have known that you’d ever say goodbye <P>And now I’m glad I didn’t know <BR>The way it all would end the way it all would go <BR>Our lives are better left to chance I could have missed the pain <BR>But I’d of had to miss the dance <P>Holding you I held everything <BR>For a moment wasn’t I a king <BR>But if I’d only known how the king would fall <BR>Hey who’s to say you know I might have changed it all <P> I want to thank you for the dance, and who knows, maybe someday you’ll honor me again. I am leaving our relationship regretfully, because I will miss so many things about you. Overall, I am leaving our relationship with many happy memories. I regret I loved you only my way, disregarding the love you needed from me. I regret we didn’t communicate our needs until it was too late, if indeed it is too late. I will miss kissing you on the back of the neck, watching your whole body quiver. The biggest thing I will miss, is that youthful look you shine from your eyes. <P> Lisa, I truly hope you are able to find the happiness you so intensely desire. You deserve that, but more importantly, our girls deserve that. I never thought our marriage would end like this. No matter what happens to us in the future, I would like to express my gratitude. Thank you for our three wonderful children. Thank you for being my wife, my best friend, and my lover. Thank you for the glorious memories I will cherish for as long as I live. <P> Although the years ahead will heal my wounds, I will never forget the day of our wedding, when we began our journey before the Lord. Thank you so much for all you have given and endured. I hope you have a wonderful day, and I will pray you have a wonderful life. My love for you is eternal. HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!!! <P><BR>With all my love, <P><BR>Billy<BR>