Well, after getting a letter from my X (first communication from him since October), I talked to him on the phone yesterday (July 5th). Funny how he timed the call for what would have been our 8th wedding anniversary. And of corse he just had to slip in the information that he's getting married again in November.<P>The funny thing is... I don't feel anything about it. Nada, nothing, no emotions at all. This is a good thing. I couldn't be happier about it. <P>However, I do feel sorry for the woman he is going to marry... I'd dearly love to talk to her and let her know what he's really like. But, on the other hand, she started seeing him while we were married and trying to work things out, so she's on her own. <P>Just thought I'd post for all those of you who wonder if you ever get beyond the hurt... the answer is yes. It takes time, but you do get there... and it's a good feeling. <P>Smooches to all,<BR>Dawnetta<P>I wouldn't be where I am now without all of you... THANK YOU!<BR><P>------------------<BR>There are deep sorrows and killing cares in life, but the encouragement and love of friends were given us to make all difficulties bearable. <BR>-- John Oliver Holmes<P>The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference.<BR>-- Elie Wiesel

Dawnetta,<BR>It is wonderful that you healing. God is truly good. The wounds heal with enough passage of time. Besides God makes all things clear, we just have to listen to what He is saying which doesn't always come in the time in which we expect. Wait patiently on Him and all things work out for the best for those who love Him and are called according to His purposes.<P>------------------<BR><B><I>God Bless,<BR>Rob</I></B><BR> regilmor@swbell.net

My ex H got married less than two weeks after our court date to OW. (Which means he got married this last Tuesday) talk about a quickie-he just left me in November of 2000 for OW. Now they are married......I'm learning to move on and I am slowly believing they deserve each other. I mean they are both lying cheaters-what more could you want in a relationship???? Our court date was also on our 7th Anniversay exactly!!! How weird. I have not heard from ExH since ??????? I hear they are happy but I remember we were also once happy. I will be okay and the pain lessens each day!!Hang in there we will all make it!!

Butterfly,<BR>Thanks for letting us know that you are doing okay. <BR>TnT

I am glad you felt nothing. Very bad timing to tell you on his part, what was that for? <P>So happy that you are doing good! Thanks for the update.

That was bad timing, but it seems like WS are good at bad timing, I am glad you felt nothing, It would not surprise me if my ex doesn't remarry soon. Seems to me that the WS will go to any length to prove they did the right thing and to make sure they tell people how happy they are. The funny thing for me is as time goes on I get better and better and feel happy for myself. I think in the long run The BS grows more and comes out stronger and happier. The other thing I think of is that OP never really knows what they are getting and sometimes I wonder why I ever put up with the things I put up with, I think she did me a favor when she left now LOL. Anyway Take care ofe yourself, this was his loss more than yours.<P>

I'm happy to hear your doing well! Hugs, Dana

Thanks everyone! <P>I've actually been doing very well... I'm dating again, and discovering how wonderful life can be (again). <P>I've considered sending them a Thank You card instead of a congratulations card... Thanks for giving me my happiness and my life back. <P>Rob, <BR>Long time no see! And you are right... GOD is GOOD! I hope things are going well for you too.<P>White Dove,<BR>I'm sorry you are going through this so soon. It's been a year and a half since the D was final for me. And he moved out of state in October... that has helped me more than anything else.<P>TnT...<BR>Hey Girl! I'm doing GREAT! I don't stop by very often, but every once in a while I still check in. How have you been?? Email me if you get a chance... dawnettad@aol.com<P>Raskal & Jabber,<BR>His timing was intentional... I just know it. He still tries to push my buttons and make me crazy, but it's not working anymore. I know that I will eventually find someone to have a happy healthy & loving relationship with. They on the other hand have to wonder if the other will repeat the history that brought them together in the first place. As the saying goes... what goes around, comes around.<P>Dana,<BR>Thanks Girl! I got your email, and responded today. Thanks so much for everything you do! <P>Love & Prayers to everyone!<BR>Dawnetta

Hey Flutterbye,<P>I'm so glad to read that you're doing so well.<P>I have also thought of sending flowers to OW#1 - the one that broke up our marriage. Because at least it happened now rather than another 10 or 20 years of what was becoming a very unsatisfactory marriage.<P>He's now moved in with gf#5, a girl I used to work with 10 years ago. She's sleeping in my old bed, using my old furniture, using my kitchen implements........ yuck yuck yuck.......<BR>Her problem.<P>I'm glad you're doing so well, and thanks for your timely post that things do get better.<P>love and hugs to you<P>Jo xxx

I love the idea of the Thank You card! Glad to hear you're getting through this with grace.