My husband and I have been married for 3 years. It is the second marriage for both of us. We dated for about 2 1/2 year and lived together for about 6 months before we married. My husband warned be about his anger before we married, but I guess I didn't believe him because I never saw it before. About 3 weeks after we got married, my husband came charging past me and said I would have been better off staying single. He was mad at my son. Then several months later he was mad at my son again and said it again. I had a talk with my son to try to change his behavior. Then about 6 months later he was stressed about his family and we were discussing it. Long story but I said something about how difficult it was for a woman to change her legal name when she got married, and he said if I didn't like it I shouldn't have married him. He has an explossive temper and when ever I try to discuss my problems he starts shouting at me telling me if I don't stop he won't love me anymore. He has told me he wants a divorce several times and yet, he still stays. My two children live with us. This is their home and I feel I can't leave. He is making my life misserable. We have gone to counseling but both feel it didn't do any good. I don't know what to do. I don't want to stay married anymore if the rest of my life is going to be like this.

It's hard to believe that our lives are so alike. My h and I have been married for 3 years and second marriage for both of us. We are ages 40 and 42. However, the shouting went to calling me names and on to one bad evening of physical abuse. It took 3 years to get there and I kept telling myself that my husband loved me he would never get physical. Well I was wrong. I found this web site three days after it happened and received great advise and read lots of articles. The bottom line was to seperate then and build back. My husband and I have been seperated for four months and we are building back on healthy terms. Terms that make marriages last. <P>I first had to think of the children and keep them safe and happy . I went through financial problems, health problems etc. over this seperation. When I ask my husband to leave there was no financial support for the bills we had together and on and on...<P>Burst of anger, uncontrollable anger only gets worse. It can be stopped. Either he loves you enough to re-build or divorse. Either way it stops and you have to do it.<P>Read some of the articles on abuse and see if your husband fits the picture. I did'nt believe it until I was able to see all the signs. I waited to long. This should have been stopped shortly after it got started. But you both need to work at finding the cause. Don't let it go on to long. Start building back now.