Hello to all...this is my first post, although I have been a lurker.<P>I do not know what is wrong with me, I thought that I was way past all the horrid stuff from the past with this, but lately I find myself embroiled back in the pain of it all and constantly looking for answers. I am hoping that all of you may be able to shed some light for me. I am embarassed to tell my story, but here goes.<P>My STBX H left me about 2.5 years ago for my sister-in-law right after I had our last child. They had both proclaimed that they had fallen in love with each other and they deserved to be happy. The break up was very bitter and cruel with both of them telling me that I was nothing and wasted 15 years of his life, that I took advantage of my H and neglected him, (at the time I was suffering post-partum depression, so could be somewhat true in that respect), that they were meant to be etc. Since then they have had me arrested in front of my children because I was trying to regain custody of my boys when they refused to return them to my care, (BTW, she and my brother have 2 girls, him and I have 2 boys), they have forced my oldest, (8), to make tape recordings of how horrid I am, have gone around town telling my family and friends that I need psychological help, and the list goes on, but if I were to tell you everything this would be even longer than it is now. I do admit that I was not perfect in the marriage or after the break-up. God knows I haven't been.<P>The thing is, these 2 people have taken my brother for all he had. When he left he had a duffel bag and that is all after spending a great deal of his life obtaining a home and what not. They forced myself and 2 children from our home and now we live in subsidized housing all the while they live off the fruits of my brother's labour. They have emotionally depleted myself and my brother not to mention the children. Although, my brother has gone on to do quite wonderful, I have not. The pain has come to rest again with me. <P>At present, these 2 people have stayed within our town acting as though they have done nothing wrong and expecting to maintain all the family ties with my family. Which they try vehemently. They live in the house that my brother paid for, drive the vehicles that my brother paid for, even go so far as asking my brother to fund their various escapades. They are even seeking custody of my 2 boys and have dragged me through the mill in court. They maintain that all have to be adult about this and we can all be friends, socailize etc together. My next court date is August 9 for the custody battle.<P>I am wondering here, how do I get past all of this and complete the healing that I need to be "me" for my children and myself?? Will it come in time...it has been so long already.<P>Thanks in advance!!<P>