Couldn't decide if I was 'thumbs up', or 'thumbs down'. The article is interesting, yes...but extremely vexing to me. I feel it is not right for the BS to cry out, or take action against the WS, or OP. The authority of marriage comes from (God) the members of our society. When we reward (especially financially) revenge, we weaken the concept that you do the right thing for the sake of being right, and being consistent with our value system. There is a reason that the civil courts are so clogged with this type of 'stuff'. We have lost our ability as a society to hold ourselves, individually, and as a whole to our morality.<P>Adultery IS against the law, and therefore it is a CRIME. The 'regular' enforcement channels run from this like a WAS to a Motel 6, and that gives the green light to less likely folk, like my little WAS, and her 'man'. Moral turpitude is a cancer, and we are not doing ANYTHING constructive as a society to fix that. We seem to be turning into a modern day Sodom and Gomorrah, IMHO (tainted as it is). I remember a time (keep in mind...I'm 38) that society shunned WAS type behavior. It was an aberration then, and you could count on society to turn its back on that. How many potential WAS' were turned by that? (I'm not saying that it didn't happen, but one thing I DO know...My XW would never have started her EA or PA until after the D, if she did not feel supported by friends in her actions. They, in fact, LIED to me about it, and OM is their brother/friend. They did this in FULL view of everyone. When I began to suspect, I got NO WAY MIKE. He/she would not do that. Well, they did, and they are still at it...do you think one of those people apologized to me? Or called me? Or....okay, I'm sure you know this drill very well!)<P>Anyway, I lit off on ABC pretty much, as well. Charged them with giving an opposing viewpoint...i.e. The BS was way over the top, and was supported in an act of revenge by the government...who obviously can no more legislate morality than I could. Very depressing!<P>Where is the responsibility? Are we creating WAS as a society? Damn straight! -Mike<p>[This message has been edited by waiting_for_her (edited July 14, 2001).]
