<BR>Short history: STBX told me I'd NEVER get custody of the kids after the 'stunt I pulled' (what he likes to call my suicide attempt) and demanded a psych exam.<P>The plan backfired on him. The psychiatrist failed to find any mental problems with my STBX in the two hours he had to determine the rest of mine and my children's lives (!!!!!) but did perceive some very interesting things which are noted in the report sent to Friend of the Court and our judge.<P>** (H) was inclined to shift the burden of responsibility for difficulties within the marriage to his wife and he endeavored to paint an overly positive picture of himself **<P>BIG SURPRISE!! (Please forgive my spontaneous outburst of sarcasm!)<P><BR>Anyway, the big news is that he is recommending that the children remain in the sole physical custody of the mother!! His scheme to paint me as mentally unstable and an unfit mother has fizzled out.<P>"Praise the Lord and pass the ammunition."<BR>

ROFLMAO!! <P><BR>"Praise the Lord and pass the amo!" <P><BR>You are so funny! And by the way, I am happy dancing with you on this wonderful turn of events. Has he ever heard of karma?<P><BR>CJ<P>------------------<BR>Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

TLC!<P>Oh man...I am freaking out about your post. My husband has been requesting that I be evaluated by a psychiatrist before he talks about custody. I don't know if I have ever been suicidal, but I have threatened lots of things while on the floor begging him to take me back.<P>Did you have to find a doctor that the court approved? Your husband had to submit to one also, I see - was he mad about that?<P>Anyway....so happy for you. Kids need moms. I'm not saying that they don't need dads....but in general - if you take the animals in the wild as examples - if dad dies, the babies still thrive....if mom dies, the babies usually die.<P>THANK YOU FOR NOT BASHING ME FOR THAT LAST COMMENT, everyone - I didn't write it, just repeated it. You have to realize that I'm coming from a relationship where my husband wants primary custody of my three boys and I am very upset about it!<P>Peggy

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>** (H) was inclined to shift the burden of responsibility for difficulties within the marriage to his wife and he endeavored to paint an overly positive picture of himself **<BR><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>ROTL! But, hey, wait a minute! That's <B>my</B> H being described!

Lonesome heart...<P>Yeah, that sounds a little too familiar to me too! <P>------------------<BR><I>As iron sharpens iron, so does one wo/man sharpen another...</I> Prov 27:17

<BR>The person we went to was assigned by Friend of the Court.<P>My STBX was the one who insisted I get examined. I had a stack of letters from counselors I'd already been to with a diagnosis of mild depression ... they didn't care about that ... HE kept pushing and so the Friend of the Court conciliator recommended we BOTH get examined.<P>I know that my kids need both parents involved in their lives. They just don't need to be subjected to being pulled back and forth, taken away from the person who has been the primary caregiver to be given to the person who has abused the other in front of the them, or being told lies about the other parent.<P>Oh, forgot to mention, the psychiatrist is also recommending that we both get drug tests. I am not worried about it, but I bet he is SWEATING BULLETS.<BR> <P>Yes, it isn't worth worrying about how you will get someone back for what they did to you ... things come around on their own just fine without help.<BR> <BR><p>[This message has been edited by T-L-C (edited July 17, 2001).]