I am really upset now. Husband has went on vacation with his mom and dad, being he is in great need of getting away from me. So last night I am doing some cleaning, went to put up something on top of my bedroom closet. Some old pictures fell down, so I decided to look through them all and look to see what my husb. had in some boxes up there. When I came back home to him in Oct., he had had a (whatever you want to call her) living in my house. He put her out and talked me into comming back home. When I did, I asked if he had kept any of her pictures. The actually had pics. made together. He said no. Then I said what if I was to look up in the closet and he said to go ahead, that he put all that up there after she had left and there was nothing to hide. HHMMMMMMM!! I believe him for the most part, but that little voice in my head was telling me he kept something. So last night I find 2 pics of her, one normal one and one glamore shot. Then to make things worse, there was a pic. of a naked woman, posing like in a hustler magazine (could not see her face, just the rest of her), and another with her b**Bs haning out of her little outfit. On the back of one of them said (my friend so and so). I am so hurt do to him lying to my face, and why would he keep a pic of someone he supposedly never really loved???? Someone please explain. I was really going to make a go of our marriage one way or another when he got back, but now I feel it's plain old over. I will never be able to trust him. I have been 100% honest with him about all that I have done and I expected the same from him. Well this will be all for now, I am going to try to sleep. Having a hard time due to a severly nauseated stomach. What a low life.<P>Starrr

Honey I am so sorry. I guess the first thing to do is confront him. He said he had nothing to hide - well apparently he did. I wouldn't freak out so much. He may have actually forgot. My H (though a low-life loser too) is very absent-minded and has a way of "putting stuff" out of his mind entirely. Perhaps your H thought he got rid of all pictures, but really didn't (innocently). I know that sick nauseated feeling all too well. I've caught my H in so many lies, caught him red-handed on the phone with the OW and on and on and on. He would sit there and lie to my face. But if you can, I would try to be calm and just present your evidence to him and let him take it from there. You will probably be able to tell alot from his facial expressions, etc. Don't make the same mistake I do and run to the phone and call him on it - instead of face-to-face. Wait so that you can SEE his reaction.<P>------------------<BR>

I am wondering is whether you are angry about the photographs, or because you want him to get rid of them all and he did not comply, or whether there is some deep seated anger over the fact that there was another woman? Obviously any of these things would need to be addressed.<P>If you are angry about the relationship with the other woman, then there are other questions as well. Did he leave you for her? Or had you left him and this relationship started after that? There are important distinctions, I think.<P>In any case, the photographs themselves should be treated as what they are: photographs. I don't think I understand why he is keeping naked photos, and I think they probably need to be removed from his collection. But don't over react. He'll get defensive and then you will have a big fight. I would try to stay assertive but not aggressive. Maybe put them in an envelope and when he comes home, say "oh by the way, I was cleaning a bit (or whatever), and I came across these. I was wondering if you could dispose of them. I am uncomfortable with them."