I have been very selfish and controlling because my beautiful wife would not help me in my business. I have not been working to my potential and we have suffered. She has a great position and I have not appreciated that.<P>We did not get any help in counseling and had quit working and trying. She places all on me.<P>I love her greatly and want to save our marriage. She thinks there is no use and wants to go on. We have been married 5 years. Her 56-me 59 years. She has filed and is on a fast track to just get away. No one else or others, jsuyt thinks I will not change. I have and am.<P>How to slow things down? She offered last year to wait a year if I would go and establish myself and change. I squirmed back in and quit trying then, feeling sorry for myself.<P>I want my marriage. I have got my business going (real estate) and have made many plans and commitments to her to no avail-"heard it all before-you won't change". I want time to show her this is real and respect her and believe in her enough to do this.<BR>

Your answer is the same regardless...fix your self-esteem issues that keep you down. Become the kind of successful, godly man that women cannot resist. Simple (right) -Mike