How does one cope with the OW if she is pregnant with your H's child? My H had a very brief affair during the month of November over the course of three weekends and now this woman 17 years younger than he is pregnant and due in August. He came home to me the first week of January swearing that he would spend the rest of his life making it up to me and that he was so ashamed and filled with remorse, he'd do anything if I would just take him back. He's done everythingI've asked: he stopped seeing her and talking to her, stopped drinking, went thru treatment, attended Retrouvaille (Marriage Encounters thru the Catholic Church) and we will be remarried when I am confident that this will never happen again. I could have gotten through this eventually in spite of how our specialness has been robbed from us forever and I will never be the same. But, a pregnancy? I can't handle this devastation. I am sick inside with grief and sadness. Is there anyone out there who has gone through a similar situation? How did you sope? How did you go on? Did he want to see her again? Did he want to see the child? We're you able to go on? Did your marraige survive? I am being redundant as I have elaborated more in my profile and don't care to beat this to death. I do need some advise if there is anyone out there who has goen thru this. Thanx

I'm sorry I don't really know what to say but if you check in the infidelity board there are others who are/have been in your situation. They might be able to help a little better.

I think the difficult part is that he will be the father of this child, as he is the father of your children with him. He will be required to pay support, and he will be entitled to visatation with the child. It will be just like any other man with children from a previous relationship. The child can't be made to suffer for his dumb moves.