<P> My wife and I first met when she was 12 I was 14. In high school (during her parents divorce) we became sweethearts. When I moved away to school we split up. <BR> Then one day she showed up. She had just left her boyfriend to pursue me. She would visit her girlfriends, that lived in my town, every weekend!She would drive 500 miles every weekend!! I played hard to get but i knew she had me. She didnt know this but i knew she would take care of me..ha ha...So,in '93,at 23 & 21 we were back at it.<BR> In the years that followed we moved in together,i bought a house,in 95 i bought her a business in her line of work(beauty salon) just so that she would not have to work for someone else and also so that she could feel good about owning a business and the responsabilities that it brings make you feel good about yourself.. I never requested that she pay me back the thousands that i spent. I just wanted her to be responsable and she could keep all profits.she would pay some bills and buy the food so i was getting something back anyways.<BR> A few years went by both our businesses where doing very well..i was happy!!! Everything was great so I thaught. Then in early '98 she decided that she wasn't happy. She said i treated her bad(i'm from venus) or not like how she needed(the love and affection thing). She moved to her moms(who has no love for men who are close to them because her husband left her and my w and her sister). So i did all i knew to do which was BEG!!! A few dozen roses later and her own apartment awaiting her she return to see if seperation would help. We lived seperated but still slept together EVERY night. I dont understand why we even seperated..We lived like this for 4 months and i then felt i needed to decide what i was going to do with my life. I had allready invested a future w/ this girl and she was good to me and she seemed happy so after thinking about it i decided i was going to marry her!! So in June,after 6 yrs of dating, I went out and bought a 1 1/2 carat diamond ring!! ha ha...She moved back home in July. Everything was ok. We were married 4/99 we had this huge wedding just the way she wanted it $$$. First 6 months after wedding were great. Then by new yrs 2000 things were changing. we were treating each other very badly and without much respect when we argued..I always figured we would grow up and and learn to deal with our problems but divorce was never an option! I did not know DIVORCE!!<BR> In march of '00 we decided to buy w a SUV which she and her sister had been making comments to me about how she wanted one and that I was rong for not going out and buying the first one we see regardless of price! Well in march we found a good price so we purched her SUV..Things really changed then 1 week after buying it she felt she needed to take vacation alone..HA HA...So she went to stay a few days w/ her mother and visit her sister and nephew..ok..This was 1 week before our 1 yr anniversary. One of the days she was down there were got into an argument at which point she told me that it was over!! just like that! A few days later she finally came home with this cold heartless its over i love you but i'm not in love with you line!! HA HA...From the mooment she came home she was different!! She would go to her friends house till late which she NEVER did...Her friend worked for her and in the past we would have her over for dinner but there was something about this girl that i never liked(now I know its her Morals or lack of) and I had told my w that months earlier when i first met her.I always treated her kindly...Well after a week of this my wife informs me that she is moving in with customer(female) until she finds apt...this on our anniversary weekend!!ha ha...She ended up moving into apt right next to her friend/employee coincidence? no....3 weeks after leaving the truth is revealed...A friend and I walk into a restraunt down my street and i see someone sitting at a booth across the bar that looked just way to familiar so i started walking closer to them the closer i walked the more blurrred my vision became i couldnt breathe then NO WAY!!! <BR>THE TRUTH!!! There was my W(who was supposed to be home sleeping) with her sisters brother-n-law!!! TRUTH HURTS!!! But its better than not knowing!!! Anyways I have too much to lose for me to have broken a pool stick on each one of them so I turn and walked away on the advice of my friend...I couldn't believe that she could sit with another man while her husband walked away??? Some people have no STANDARDS or MORALS...So know everything was clear she had been swept off her feet(as she put it) buy this guy and her family obviously encouraged it..What can I say? dont go? yeah right!! There is nothing one can do or say when the adulterous partner is in their fantasy...PERIOD!!! I'm not one who accepts ones spouse to see other people!! That is SICK that wasn't part of the deal(marriage)...I saw red for weeks,months i just could not accept that idea...Not long after that my friend(same guy) out to a club and guess who was right in the middle of the dance floor with some guy all over her??? Yes!! my Wife!!! After a few choice words for her friend/employee who was there,i left... In just a few months my w had been influenced by her friend and others that She wasn't isn't the same person...incredible...<BR> My wife came around a week before thanksgiving and chistmas and distanced herself after each and on new yrs '01 her resolution must have been to never talk to me again because she will not discuss anything just through lawyers...My wife has been violated by many men...a whole string of men...and she has yet to find a keeper.. A friend of mine saw her at a bar not long ago and she told him that she missed me and that she was sorry for what she did to me and that she had dated a few guy and had yet to find someone who clicked like us..Ha HA...Good Luck...Not to bragg but I'm considerd a very handsome guy i make 6 figures a year and have my house and new Z06..I'll be allright...I have always had luck with the ladies...Beauty has its priviledges..Ha HA...but its true...Anyways i feel like i'm comming out of the dark and I can see the light! soon(by mid august) divorce should be DONE!!! I can get these wicked people behind me and move on once and for all..<BR> I guess what I learned is a true life lesson in not to trust anyone because you can never get inside anyone elses head...period...Another thing i have learned is how much of an impact her father leaving their family and starting another one has had on her...she knew about divorce and now so do I..its a shame how some people view spouses as used cars and trade them in when something better,so they think, comes along..pity...As a kid when i used to think about growing up and having my wife and family I NEVER WOULD HAVE THOUGHT.....THIS GIRL...I NEVER WOULD HAVE THOUGHT.........

Dear I never wouldve thought,,<BR>Well I wish you all the luck... You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. I geuss it really is better knowing the truth than not. Sometimes it still bothers me knowing my ex has a g/f. I don't know why but it does. I geuss the right person it out there for all of us. And we deserve so much better..<BR>Wish you well in all you do <BR>Janet