My wife has been planning on taking the kids and moving out because she is "Just not happy!" Last week my father passed away and we were not really prepared. She was wonderful. She did so much for my mom and dad...I was amazed. We get home and she says she's still leaving. I guess the affair is still pulling her even though she says it's over. How can someone be so self involved that they would leave someone just weeks after the death of a parent? I'm almost ready to give up even though my spirit says don't. Don't know what to do!

Welcome <B>Squinnty</B>...<P>I know you registered a long time ago...<BR>but...there is a post of general welcome I wish to share with you... <P>It has a lot of quick links to many of the <B>most</B> important MB sites...<BR>Click here ==> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000553.html" TARGET=_blank>General Welcome for All New Builders(Newbies)</A><P><B>About your post</B>...<P>Do start on a <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A>...<BR>Check out my post <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum30/HTML/000176.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A - 101 (2nd ed.)</A>.<P>And now I'll shock you...<BR>...(this will be a love buster)... but...<BR>...contact an attorney, and find out how you can stop her leaving with the kids!<BR>This may require that you file for temporary custody!<BR>Lawyer search<BR><A HREF="http://lawyers.martindale.com/marhub/form/by.html" TARGET=_blank>Martindale-Hubbell Lawyer Search</A><BR>If you need to <B>protect</B> yourself legally (and/or financially)... I usually make the recommendation of finding a <B>good</B> attorney. A good place to start off is at the <A HREF="http://lawyers.martindale.com/marhub/form/by.html" TARGET=_blank>Martindale-Hubbell Lawyer Search</A> site. Do a search within your county... look for only "family law" specialists(>80% in divorce/custody/etc.)... make sure they do a lot of "family law committee work"... if they know the judges all the better... You can normally find a few that will give initial counseling free of charge.<BR><A HREF="http://www.uslaw.com" TARGET=_blank>USLaw.com</A> (an alternative search site)<P>Protecting the kids(age dependent)... is very important!<P>Allowing the breakup of the family...<BR>...sends the message... that divorce is OK! ...and that you're OK with not being married anymore!<P>If she needs to leave...<BR>...sobeit!<P>But to put all of this in focus...<BR>...for every other aspect of your life... Plan A... Plan A... Plan A!<P> <P><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000254.html" TARGET=_blank>Jim</A> / <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000037.html" TARGET=_blank>NSR</A>