Here's the last post on this (911 Update):<BR> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum34/HTML/003759.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum34/HTML/003759.html</A> <P>Had long talk w/ W tonight-over one hour on the phone. No LBs on either side. She assured me there is no A, she was just fantasizing in writing, and I believe her. Maybe I am a giant ostrich, but I woudl have heard a lie in her voice. Did not tell her what i had read, but she described it anyway and offered to show it to me some day.<P>We talked about what has gone wrong for us, and she stepped to the plate on some issues where she has not before. We both discussed some of our shoprtcomings, and I talked some about what i have learned since we separated. I think i did well at keeping it even not saying things were my fault or hers, not clinging. I did not ask to come back, did not profess love, no other bargaining behavior.<P>Even worked EN into the discussion. She said I sounded good, and at the end of the conversation she said she had enjoyed talking. The tone I heard was much less fatalistic than what I have heard lately, although she made it clear she likes things just as they are right now, and she does not know what the future holds. But, she does still consider reconciling as a possibility. And, she did call me today to clarify our conversation yesterday.<P>Maybe I am grasping at a straw, but there must be some care in her at some level or she would not have called. So, maybe there is least some tiny spark in there.<P>My thinking now is to continue Plan A when I can, give her some more time to herself, then maybe ask to go on a date. I have been considering sending a 'Tough Love' letter, but now does not seem to be the time.<P>