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My wife and I went to the counselor today. I am still getting the "I love you but I'm not in love with you" reply. She refuses to try and fix our mess, she keeps saying she's moving out, but she's still here. We are very civil to each other, no major conflict, some passive / aggressive actions, but mostly low key existance. We are almost rommies right now. The OM is in the backround right now, and even though W says it's not about him, she still wants to date him after our split. I believe we can get better. She wants me to be her best friend but she wont let me in. She wants me to fulfill her needs but she stays at a distance. How do I plan A through this mess? Help!
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First, raed through the Plan A stuff again and really try to understand that Plan A should be undertaken with no expectation that anything will change. For me, Plan A works because I feel better about MY interactions with my H. You can still do Plan A stuff without her support...you just need to be consistent. Your wife has her wall up right now, and she won't let you in until she is ready. At least she can say that she still loves you, my H can't tell me that, but he tells our kids instead.<P>Good luck Squinnyt!
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