I am finally able to put down what happend last friday when I had to meet exH at the bank on Friday.....We were supposed to mee at 5pm-I left at 5:10 pm-he flagged me down from his new Grand Cherokee and I turned around. I noticed his new Wife-the OW was with him-I parked far away and he walked up to me-He had to take the check thru the drive thru because the inside of the bank was closed ( he told me the previous night that it stayed open till 6pm) Never apologized for being late or anything-said he would pull around-I asked him not to park anywhere near me-he said don't worry-so he parked one space from me -with OW facing me-she just sat there giving me this look like she was soo much better -than she laughed at me-than her kids put down their windows and they all started laughing at me-I know she wanted me to start something but I didn't-H got out and handed me the money while they all laughed at me-I counted my money looked at him and said "she sure is ugly" (truth!!!) he said "look at you!" I was so upset that she was even there. He is a JERK!!! Trash looks like trash no matter whatr it is sitting in-plus she is teaching these children that adultry is funny!!! I just believe that they think what they have done is funny!!!

(((White Dove)))<P>I can think of a whole bunch of adjectives that would better describe your x and her but that would probably get me kicked off this site. <P>I just truly hope that you don't have to do that again. I don't know anything about your x but it sounds like she and he are going to a great match, until one of them gets bored. Being a person who's first thought is always of the child, I truly feel great sorrow for her children. What a role model in morality and for that matter as a human being...<P>Anyway glad it's over.<P>Hugs, Thoughts, and Players from the Wheat Fields<P>------------------<BR>Love, Bill<P>-There are none so blind as those who refuse to see!-<BR>-Stand up and do the right thing, even if your standing alone.-

I am so sorry you had to endure that act of ignorance. Just remember, that is what their actions are. They say ignorance is bliss. Bliss to the blind eye perhaps. <P>Please do not let them get you down. You are a good person, you know it, your family knows it, your true friends know it, your friends here on the MB know it too. It does not matter what THEY think of you... <P>My thoughts and prayers are with you.<P>Michelle

((((((((((((Whitedove))))))))))))<P>That is such a sad story, and I really feel for her kids, as they only laughed because they didn't know any better; they got their lessons from her (and him).<P>Not that this makes YOU feel any better. <P>I don't know your whole story, but it seems it's a bad one. In the future, perhaps you could get some sort of mediator to meet him on your behalf at the bank or elsewhere, so you never have to go through that again.<P>What a jerk, sorry, it has to be said. Bringing her along just so she could sling at you MUST show you that you are better off now.<P>Take care, surround yourself with people who care about you, and look after yourself. My all-time best self-spoiler is a huge bubble bath with a good book, favourite music playing, glass of wine, and a home beauty treatment while I'm at it. I hardly ever do this, usually when I need a real lift, but maybe it will help you a little to try it today .<P>Nina.

Thank you so much for your support-I knew my friends here would understand. Friday night was girls night out at my house-funny-I am friends with all of his cousins now and they are part of the girls night out-we all have a better time now. I am a better person w/o him. I punch alot of pillows to get the anger out and wrote a 6 page letter bashing him. It helps, I will read it to my counselor next wek-she says I can even send it to him in a couple of months if I want to. It helps me soooo much to hear from you guys that he is a jerk....I hope I will be here to help you guys also. Thank you again, words cannot express how much you have helped me!!!!!<p>[This message has been edited by White Dove (edited July 31, 2001).]

That was so tacky of your X to bring her along. The only suggestion I can give is from my experience. I knew my X had a girlfriend, but she stayed in the house and wouldn't come out. Finally an opportunity came up where I needed something for the girls and I had to go back to the house. I went up to the door, knocked, she answered and I held my hand out, head high and introduced myself. The look on her face was priceless (very insecure, weak & shocked). <P>I rarely talk to my X. They ended up marrying because she got pregnant. "What goes around comes around" I preach this all the time. It may take a while, but this is such a true statement. Kids can be little devils at times, but they are an image of their parents, don't fault her kids. As hard as this may sound, don't argue or name call in front of the kids - they are smart and will eventually see the light.<P>

You know what? Not giving into that kind of torture made you the winner. It must have been so hard to go through that - but be sure, you made an impression on the other woman and her kids by being a humble, strong, confident, courteous peron. I believe that.<P>Peggy

Hi Whitedove,<P>you are definitely the winner here.<P>Your grace and calm under pressure will rankle her. She wanted to see you cry, or shout, or have an arguement. You didn't. You have more class than that.<P>I take my hat off to you. I hope when I have to see my ex-h's gf face to face again (someone I used to work with) I can behave the same way you have.<P>I will have you in my head when that time comes. Reminding me of the best way to behave.<P>My God, the gall of her. What a piece of trash (wanted to use some vile words there but I won't!!!!!!)<P>love and hugs to you<P>Jo<P>