I first expressed my concerns about this issue in the pre-marriage and the early years section about a month ago,if you don't fully understand what is going you might want to read that post first. The saga continues:<BR>Monday his mom calls to ask for money to help pay a utility bill. Craig tells her he is not able to help her out this time. She has called once a week for the past 3 weeks borrowing money. She then proceeds to question him about how is my car note and car insurance being paid and if he is paying it? (I was lucky enough to partake in my companies annual downsizing last month.) He then explains how I received severance pay and I will probably receive unemployment or have another job before it becomes an issue.<BR>I asked him why he was discussing my car on the phone? He said his mother was concerned about me and how I was going to pay for the car? Really? We were just out there Sunday evening and she did not happen to run these concerns by me, since I'm the one who lost my job and it is my car. Well an hour later his sister calls and wants him to come look over a car that she found. (just a coincidence) I'm cooking dinner, something I haven't done in along time when I was working. He said he would be back in a hour, two at the most. Ok it is 2:30, 4:30 no Craig,5:30 no Craig. 6:00pm dinner is cold, but I can heat it up and serve it. Wrong, he ate fish out his mom's house and will eat my dinner later. He sat around all evening long with the calculator trying to figure out something, I will put my money on it that they want him to take out a loan for this car. His mom thinks he responsible for his 3 sister's and her and his dad. All mind you are healthy adults. She plans his days off, especially Tuesday, he has to go mow the lawn, wack weeds,put out the garbage, run errands and play personal used car sales man and loan shark. All the things her husband, his father REFUSES to do. What can I do to stop this woman from minding my business and making their financial well being my fiance's responsibility, along with planning his day off before we do? Next how can I get my fiance' to realize that his place is with me and his mother does not direct traffic on this street? I'm just about through with this nonsense, I feel I'm always on the back burner to his family and if I say something about, I'm always the bad person,you know, jealous of his relationship with his family. I don't think so. Please Help! <P>------------------<BR>JDC<P>[This message has been edited by JDC (edited May 19, 1999).]<p>[This message has been edited by JDC (edited May 20, 1999).]