Hey There Everyone,<P>It has been a great while since I have been here. There are so many new things going on in my life right now, that the computer seems to take a back seat to it all.<P>The best news first. My STBXW finally gave in and let me see my 8yo step-son. I had him for two weeks, and it looks like I am going to get to see him on a more regular basis. I missed him so much. I hadn,t seen him in almost three months. They really tend to grow quickly when you don't see them. He was very excited to come see me. We had an absolute blast, and he got to see all of his friends that he hadn't seen in awhile. He was not very excited to go back to his mothers house. <P>My STBXW has officially moved in with the OM. She has set up house, and they are plugging along like they haven't done anything wrong. It is funny to hear about their life. The relationship is obviously strained, and she gets so much borderline verbal abuse from the OM, that I really don't know who she is anymore. I never treated her like he is treating her now, but it was her choice, so she has to live with the consequences. He seems to be treating both the kids very well.<P>My D is almost done. Trial is set for the 10th of August, but we may be able to get the rest figures out before then. I will be very happy to finally have it done. She has caused so much pain and grief in my life, that I really wouldn't be hurt at all if I never heard from her again (I know, it won't happen because of the kids ). The proposed judgement is very specific on what we can and can not do. Basically we will only talk about things or see each other when is specifically pertains to the kids, or the judgement. I am perfectly OK with this. The less I have to deal with her, the better off I will be. (For those that don't know, my STBXW took my two youngest children and filed a protection order against me. The allegations in the PO were false, but unfortunately, the law sides with the party claiming the allegations. I went several months only seeing my kids every other weekend. Then my STBXW decided that I could no longer see my 8yo step-son, who I raised from the day he was born. So my love for this woman has been whittled away in large chunks.)<P>As for my personal life, I have met a wonderful woman that I really enjoy spending time with. I am in no rush for anything long-term at this point. There are no expectations. She is a wonderful, intelligent, beautiful woman. She is the one that my first ex wanted me to meet. I am actually glad that I went ahead and did it.<P>Sorry this was so long. I just thought that I would give an update since I have been so scarce for awhile.<P>Griz

<P>The end is near for me too.<P>Should be final August 24.<P>Couldn't be soon enough for me.<P>Glad you sound so positive. I am looking forward to walking out of that courtroom an unmarried woman.

Hey Griz - I'd been following your posts for a while; I'm glad to see that you are moving towards a better place. Looks like you are on your way!<BR> Congradulations. Hey - how did you do it; get better, find a great woman. What worked for you; how did you let go? <BR> <BR> Dan

Thanks TLC and Dan.<P>Dan, as far as what I did to get on with my life, that could be a very long and drawn out story. I went through a lot of sh*t. If you are interested in the whole story, send me your email address, and I will tell you the whole terrible mess .<P>griz1973@yahoo.com<P>Griz

I'm there with you Griz(cripes it's weird typing that name, it's the name we used to call our cat Grissellfritz...the ex got him in the divorce:P )and mine is pretty much wrapped up too. Papers are on the way and the fat lady's tuing up. Couldn't come sooner if you ask me.

Griz,<P>I'm really glad you two worked something out so you can see the children. I do believe that is fair to you and most healthiest to the kids. She probably sees it as a break with no kids for the weekend, but one day, she will probably regret this decision, just as most WS do eventually.<P>Good luck with the new friend, just go very very slow and take baby steps. Just because you think the love got whittled away, many times, it gets buried and something happens, a trigger, and you're back to grieving or confusion for a while. It has happened to me and many of my friends here.<P>However,the very best of news, is you got to and will continue to get to.. see the kids!!<P>Good luck,Dana<BR>