We are married for four years and no children. My husband has two kids from previous marriage - 10 and 14. We get along together but I cant´t stand the 10 years old one. I don´t know why but something really strong does not let me like her. She lies, she does everything to see us fighting and we never do in front of her. She is annoying. She quits school and everyboby agreed with her, she has no friends and they usually call her "monster". I tried lots of things like talk, go out with her, travel... Love is always unconditional ? I love my husband, I love the 14 years old one, she is great but definily I need some help with the younger one. <P>------------------<BR>

I went through what you are going through a couple years ago. My H and I have no children, but he has a (now) 14 yr old son. When we were first married, things were horrible. J (I'll call the son that) was doing horribly in school, arguing, fighting, stealing, getting detentions & had an aweful attitude. He was 10 and lived with us at the time. Things were very rocky between everyone. We stayed up every night helping with homework and grounding him, but nothing worked. I'm happy to say that 4 years later he and I have become wonderful friends. I decided that was the position I had to take and let his father discipline him instead of me. I later found out that he resented me for trying to be an authority figure to him. Now we get along great. We do all kinds of things together like ride bikes, draw, go on picnics & shop. He is a wonderful kid. I'm not sure what spirred the change, but he has changed and become a great young adult. Who says the teenage years are the worst?!<BR>Hang in there!