I am so confused, I feel like she is brainwashing me. My wife told me 6 weeks ago that she wants a separation, we are currently seeing a marriage counselor to try to sort things out. Last Saturday, after a month of no sex or any other forms of affection, we had sex at her initiation. Also she talks about the future as if we are going to be together. This is the same woman who said she was unhappy, didn't think she married the right man and that we were incompatible. I guess what I'm looking for is consistancy. What am I supposed to think of all this? At the advise of our counselor, we've been giving each other alone time and time to do activities apart from one another. Saturday I took our 3-year-old daughter to the park to give my wife some down time. What gives with her inconsistant behavior?

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Hang Ten:<BR>...we are currently seeing a marriage counselor to try to sort things out. Last Saturday, after a month of no sex or any other forms of affection, we had sex at her initiation. Also she talks about the future as if we are going to be together. This is the same woman who said she was unhappy, didn't think she married the right man and that we were incompatible. I guess what I'm looking for is consistancy.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Well, what's been happening in the counseling? Have you noticed anything in the sessions that seems like a change in her thinking? If she's gone from "unhappy/incompatible" to talking about a future with you, it sounds to me like you're making good progress. Accept it, support it, and keep listening. <P>Consistency is not a virture most humans possess, and especially not those dealing with marital turmoil. She may have bad days where she wants out and good days where she wants you. You may as well. <BR>

<I>Read</I> and <I>interpret</I> those signals. Provide more of what she wants, less of what she doesn't. You should have been reading right along, anyway. But men often don't...

Dabigtrain, at our last counseling session my wife said she still didn't know what she wanted. We go again tommorrow evening, maybe that will shed more light on things. The counseling sessions scare me because I always think she is going to "drop the bomb" on me. Right now all I'm trying to do is be there for my wife, good days and bad.