Interesting day. Went for our second session, therapist started off on what we wanted to accomplish. My line is clear-I want a reconciliation. W started with she sees us heading towards D, but can't really say what she wants right now. We worked through session, and it went well. In fact, we went overtime.<P>We both felt good at the end, and agreed it was a good sesion. We even agreed top do 1.5 hours next, not just one hour.<P>At the end, she told therapist she felt some compassion towards me, but did not want to reconcile just because of that (which i agree with 100%). But, the fact she felt even a little something is OK.<P>We had a good talk in the parking lot, she even asked me to come over and hang with the kids when she goes to a meeting later this week. That is a first for our separation, and another good chance to Plan A, with a bonus of making a LB deposit, and seeing the kids.<P>She said during the session she was liking the freedom, and no pressure of the relationship. I told her afterwards my life is not all bad either-I like the freedom too. We talked about us living as a couple AND as two separate people. Also slipped in how i am working on me - for my sake.<P>It is still a 1,000 mile uphill journey, but maybe we took one small step forward today.<P>One day at a time.

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>It is still a 1,000 mile uphill journey, but maybe we took one small step forward today.<P>One day at a time.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Excellent. As long as you recognize that... set your goals to yourself... God said, "It's not good for wo/man to be alone." Meaning in community with each other on many different levels. <P>God didn't say "It's not good for wo/man to be single." That's a key point. You have to be single and still choose to couple. <P>So, work on yourself... as you say. Work on being respectful to the other person (your w) as the woman God created her to be - not necessarily as she is now.<P>All the best!<P>------------------<BR><I>The new country is where you are called to go, and the only way to go there is naked and vulnerable</I> ~ Henri Nouwen

Wonderful news! Hang in there, after all, there might be a light at the end of the tunnel.<BR>Good luck!<P>Tacsi

Oh you are on the right track!!! So pleased for you!!!

Thanks all for the kind words. There have been so many bad days lately it felt great to feel something that was at the slightest bit positive. I am sure there is a backwards step or two in the coming days, but we'll see.<P>As an aside, I went to an Al-Anon meeting tonight (i have gotten a great deal out of these meetings for myself). It was shocking how many breaking and broken marriages there. There were three new people, all of whom had just left or been left by a spouse. Helped put my dilemma in a little perspective.<P>

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by ANB3:<BR>At the end, she told therapist she felt some compassion towards me, but did not want to reconcile just because of that (which i agree with 100%). But, the fact she felt even a little something is OK.<P>We had a good talk in the parking lot, she even asked me to come over and hang with the kids when she goes to a meeting later this week. That is a first for our separation, and another good chance to Plan A, with a bonus of making a LB deposit, and seeing the kids.<BR><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>This all sounds good, ANB3. Those baby steps back - "felt some compassion for me" - should be welcomed. My wife and I have had a few of those moments during counseling- not enough, but they're worth hanging on to, and building from.<P>Have fun with your kids.<BR>

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