She came to me in tears last night. I thought things were getting better, that maybe she realized a separation was not the answer. Wrong. She said she feels stuck because we don't have the money for her freedom. Why does she have to be so selfish?! We have a beautiful 3-year-old girl and moved into our first house in March. Why does she want to ruin a good thing?! She said she was sorry that she was doing this to me. She said that making herself happy might not be what makes "us" happy. We've been married 4 years, together 6, and she told me she never thought about the qualitees she wanted in a man. She is not happy and I'm torn up inside. The things she told me last night was the same song-and-dance she told me six weeks ago. (previous post) I didn't shed any tears last night like I did 6 weeks ago. I remained calm and listened to her. I told her that I can't keep her here and that she was free to do what she wants. She caught me off-guard last night, the onlt thing I knew to do was give her a verbal version of Dobson's letter. This board is my spine right now. Help me guys. What do I do now?

(((((((((((((HangTen)))))))))))))<P>You did really well!!! I don't know if I could have been that strong. Pat yourself on the back for not LBing all over the place.<P>Read RobC's latest posting again, he asked for some Plan A ideas, and I replied with a few. They might help you, too.<P>I think she has to be so selfish to protect herself...that's what my divorced WS friend told me. She also told me she wore a mask around her X constantly and did hate the fact that she had hurt him. So, see? WS's DO have feelings too.<P>We BS's have to be patient and show them that when they're out of the fog, they have a safe, loving place to come to. And that's so hard to do when you are hurting. But right now for many of us here it's the only thing we can do. That, and support each other.<P>Take care.