I'm recently a new member, been divorced for 2 years from a cop. He was extremely controlling, insecure and jealous. He is remarried and is constantly asking the girls about me, who am I dating, how much is my house note, how much does your mom make? I don't tell my girls ages 16 & 15 very much at all because I know he does this. When they tell their dad, they don't know, he accuses them of covering & lying for me. He told the 15 year old he will buy her a brand new Toyota Dacoma if she comes to live with him. He uses the girls as messengers and I tell them I don't want to hear anything your dad has to say about me. I don't ask about your dad and his new wife because I don't care. I just want them to be happy and for him to leave me alone. I bite my tongue on many occasions and try not to say negative things about their dad. I want them to have a healthy relationship with him. Has anyone experienced this and will it ever stop????

I don't know what to do or if it will stop, but I work with cops everyday, and know how controling they can be. They think that they do no wrong and are always in control. Hang in there! You have two great girls to be a strong mom for and I'm sure you are doing your best. He just bugs the girls about you, because he wants to think his life is better and he sees it as a competition now. Who knows, but hang in there!