Thanks again. The feedback is REALLY helping.<P>Gnome: I agree. My wife definitely isnt wanting marital counselling at this point. As for helping herself, honestly, my wife feels that all of our problems stem from me. Throughout our marriage she has done nothing wrong. As a matter of fact she thinks that she started drinking again because of me. Isnt it funny that somehow I was supposed to have chosen better ways to handle my problems but when she fails to do the same its my fault. That is, I am expected to get the help I need (she was and still is demanding that I continue to see a shrink) but all she needs is a a little Paxil and all is well. The fact is I spoke with her the other day and she said " I think I need a higher dose of Paxil; the current dose isnt enough". Funny huh?! Meanwhile, I have been off of the anti-d's going on three months and I feel alive and wonderful. I am wondering if she will ever figure out that she needs to look to God and herself for happiness. I cant make her happy or make her drink. Of course I can influence her positively or negatively, however, the ultimate choice is hers, just as it was mine. I choose to be happy, stay sober and forgive those who hurt me in the past. Each day brings something new and exciting and I feel wonderful most of the time.<P>Gnome, as we were working on the separation agreement (wife not involved. Just me and my step-father), he said that she is down and not emotionally able to deal with this. He said she is barely able to function. I just smiled and said, "I understand Bill, I really do. You see, I was there two months ago and for some reason I had no excuse to ignore my responsibilites, so why should Paige be any different". I wished you could have seen the look on his face. He had no idea what to say! It was not pleasurable for me, but it was the truth and my wife has a hard time with that. So did I. I was no angel and did contribute more to this mess than she did, but I want to get out of the pit and stay out. She seems to want out of this particular mess only to dive into the pit of divorce. Thanks for the insight. how are you holding up?<P>Nina: As for the fog, it is often times very thick. I am sorry you are feeling so bad. I will listen to you and lift you in prayer. <P>R/<BR>Rob
