Thanks for the input.<P>Answers:<P>Lost:<BR>I have two boys age 8 (9 in Oct) and a daughter age 5 (6 in Dec). I am currently 10 miles away from them now. A move to "pollutionville" (i.e Jacksonville) would put me 3 hours away. I have every-other-weekend and three weeks per year. I see them whenever I want now, but that can change at any time as she has full and exclusive custody. I am certain that it isnt a "good" thing for me. All of that aside, it basically means "she" has the final word on everything relating to the children. She doesnt have to ask me about anything she does to or with them. I basically had no choice, but I will should this go to divorce. This is a problem as we included in the separation agreement that the kids would attend church regularily and she has taken them only two sundays and two wednesdays since the beginning of June. I take them when I have them. I told her I would be willing to pick them up and take them if she couldnt or didnt want to. I am beginning to get angry about that, but I will bite my tongue. I am just taking notes at this point.<P>SIS:<BR>I make a very good salary now. It is just that she gets a lot of it. No alimony, but my child support is 1300/month. I pay taxes on those dollars and I took 80% of 30,000 in debt. It leaves very little for me. I have a BS in engineering and currently am a network engineer. I do consulting on the side but that has not picked up too much lately. As for her lowering child support, that is like asking a mouse to give up cheese. It aint gonna happen! She came from money and she wants money - no matter what. Remember, she feels that no matter what happens to me or whether we get divorced, I am to be responsible for her and the kids. However, she has NO obligation to me or the marriage. Kind of a warped perspective wounldnt you say. Perhaps I am being negative, but this crap stinks and it stinks reallllll bad.<P>How are you guys doing? Holding up?<P>I hate this stuff and situation.<P>R

OK Rob,<P>You move you get money, but what price are paying to get that. Not being able to sit with the kids after school and do homework. Not being able to tuck your daughter in a night. Not being able to go to school functions. I could go on and on and on. I say you lose if you move, but more importantly your children lose.<P>My x-wife moved 18 miles away, I see my children almost every day. We have not completed all the custody and financial issues yet. And yes currently I can barely, well not even, afford to exist. The courts hit me pretty hard but that's only temporary mine will be reduced in a month or two when we get all the other items finalized. <P>Honestly, if my x picked up and moved three hours away, I would be right behind her, that is if she wins our current custody battle....<P>Just think about it man, can you really sacrifice that much just for money???<P><P>------------------<BR>Love, Bill<P>-There are none so blind as those who refuse to see!-<BR>-Stand up and do the right thing, even if your standing alone.-

It would seem the court's generosity with your money has left you little choice. Jax is probably it. It's no good if you're living in penury and even still just a paycheck away from defaulting on your monetary obligations.<P>I think this is one of those situations where you take the lesser of two evils. And given the courts' willingness to crush those who default on child support, assuring the funds is probably a greater good than being there for your daughters, which is an unfortunate situation.