Well gang,<BR>It finally came to the divorce (I was expecting it), actually couldn't wait for it.... StbEX wanted a list of everything I wanted.. Ha that was a joke. I only had 8 request. I don't think that was asking to much. One of my dearest friends told me to go for everything and not to let him have a thing. It is not meant to be mean but, then maybe I would get something. Anyhow last year when I left him he was playing games (still is) and the vehicle I had I was letting him have well anyway to make a long story short he got me 3 parking tickets on our son's birthday. I did not know about these so of course they went unpaid till they were close to $300. I paid them to save argument. I am now asking for compensation for them. I also gave him a choice (people say I'm crazy) either we share our son 50% & 50% or I take him for child support. He does not like either answer.Remind you I have had our son since I left over a year now. He sees him on Sat. And does not pay a thing for him (maybe about $200. Since I left. Well anyway people tell me I am a conflict avoider (which I am). How far is pushing him to far. Not sure how far I should push for the things I would like. My son still needs his father and I know that if I push to hard he will not see him at all. By the way the new girlfriend does not help the situation. I left him for good reason's since, he did not want to go thru the divorce right away, now that he has a girlfriend he wants it like yesterday, but only on their terms. Anyway any input would be great........ Thank-you gang!!!!!!!!!!!<P>Janet

Hi,<P>I haven't seen you here yet, I've only been here a few weeks. But I read somewhere recently that women tend not to ask what they're entitled to in divorce proceedings, for whatever reasons, and so lose out.<P>You know you can't control how often he sees your son...you have to get over that one and do what is right for you. How often do YOU want him to see your son? Put that, and if he renegs, it's his loss. If you want full custody with visiting priveledges, put that.<P>You need to work out a fair settlement for you and your son. You were married to the guy, you are ENTITLED to certain things. I suggest you see a lawyer to work this out. Look after your future, even if it means dragging the divorce out...you mention you can't wait. Are you thinking that not being thorough is going to speed things up? It's LATER you need to think about, when you and your son NEED financial benefits provided by your X.<P>Just my 2 cents.

Sorry Sweatie. But you are ENTITLED to alot more than what you are thinking.<P>I don't know about Pa. but down here in Tx. child support is 20% of Net pay for the 1st. child, 25%/2 and 30/3. I filed about 8 months ago and the instant I foiled I had to start paying the 20% or she could come after me for it. Regardless if it 50/50 or total custady. My payment are $1K/Mth. <P>You get 50% of all the equity in everything, and 50% of the debt. <P>But that here in Tx. <P>I'd say get a lawyer. Let him/herr protect you. Don't let the girlfriend tell him what he should do to you. Oh heck, lets just say "Do unto Him, before Him do Unto you."<P>My .02$<P>Tex.

hey thanks all,<BR>It seems so difficult thou.. I am such a conflict avoider and it really sucks.... At this point I would let him have everything just for him to be a dad to our son. I want the divorce over and done with too like it was yesterday..<BR>I geuss there is no nice guy in this scenerio..<BR>I offered for him to give me $300 a month and I would not go after him in court I geuss he did not like that either..<BR>Wish ya all well<BR>Janet