Well I have been lurking for awhile. So I thought I would just update what has been happening here with me. <P>Hubby hasn't mentioned the D word lately. Prob. because I told him what my rights were here in GA, and that sort of thing. He is ALL about money and he is finding out that to run this household and the kids, we are always broke. He didn't realize just how much we were paying for things. He thought I was hiding money in some swiss bank account somewhere. (God, wish I was now! )<P>He is actually trying to be nice to me now. When he starts to raise his voice, I tell him I am not cursing at him or raising my voice with him, and that I don't have time for it anymore. That generally he will calm him down. <P>He says he is trying to be fair with me. Yesterday, he stopped by and gave me some money. He asked if he can have the freezer and refridge from the garage. I told him he can have the freezer as I don't use it, but the refridge I do. He said that I have a new one in the house. I said I would think about it.<P>He calls me later to ask again. He tells me he is living with his parents, and so I asked him where on earth is he going to put this stuff. He tells me in the shed. That that is where he is staying. In his parents back yard. Now he has told me over and over again that he is staying in the spare bedroom at his parents house, but as of yesterday, he is living in the shed. I know he thinks I am a complete idiot but give me a break. <P>He wants me to believe that his parents are letting him sleep in a tin shed in their back yard. I think I will tell him he can have the refridge ONLY when he tells me the truth about where he is staying and stop lying to me.<P>I also asked him to be a man and come clean with me. He said that there is not OW. That it is all in my head. He said that I am letting my imagination go wild. I told him I could care less at this point in time, just that he needed to be man enough to tell me the truth. He just said that if I mention it again, that HE would go and have an affair. <P>He told me that he just didn't want to be with me anymore, and I told him the same thing. But that kind of hurt a little knowing that after so many years together, I am not for him anymore. <P>I guess that I was just so use to having him be part of my life for the last 18 years that I just didn't realize that we weren't in love anymore! <P>I was in love with the concept of being married. What he and I forgot was that being married, it takes 2 people to make it work, and we both weren't willing to do that. <P>I was just so scared when all of this happened. But what I was scared of the most was my financial situation. But I think I will be fine, and in a year - I will be better. Or at least I hope so.<P>Reading here has helped me realize that I am not alone. <P>Beth<BR>

WS's seem to rarely tell the truth...why? Some things I've read: because they don't want to hurt you, because they want their cake and eat it too, because they're not sure what they want, because they don't want to end the marriage, because they "know" what will happen if they do, because they don't give a damn, because it's convenient, because they don't have to.<P>So there's a list for you!!! Take your pick!!!<P>I am pretty sure my h was continung his affair after he told me it broke off, by adding up all the little things I passed up, because he always had an excuse for them, and I was trying not to LB. But now he's gone, boy was I stupid! I have a burning desire to confirm my suspicions, but I know he'll still deny it unless I have concrete proof. It's the nature of the beast unfortunately.<P>I am choosing to NOT find out, and concentrating on Plan A as much as I can. It's hard, really hard, but it seems to me to be the only way to go right now.