I am really doing better. BUT i have just this one hurdle that im having problems with. I hear all of these stories of spouses that have had affairs, and left their husband or wife. Only to regret it later.<BR>See my problem is, my ex wife has never shown any regret. Hell she seem to be happy as hell, from what i hear. We were married only 2 yrs, but together 6. We were like best friends, up untill last summer when she started liking the guy at the gym. Yes we we got a divorce i told her "i never want to see you again", "dont call me, or come see me", "as far as I am concerned you dont exist". What did she expect? hell she want to still be buddies.<BR>I guess my biggest question is, do you think she has any regrets? Or will she have some regrets? I was good to her, never hit her, didnt drink or do drugs. Hell i even cooked all the time.<BR><P>------------------<BR>Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want.

Assume she eventually will get hit by regrets that are constantly accruing, even if unnoticed right now. <P>Then go about your life so that if and when she finds out what it is like, her regrets will only be magnified a hundredfold. Which means this is an opportunity to completely restructure it to your own specifications and find and woo someone who fits perfectly with it, say on Udate.com.

Ohio attorney here that does primarily family law and been through it personally. Don't know if she'll have any regrets or not. Generally both side are fault and somewhere along the line, communication breaks down, although it is not often noticed by one or both people. Many years ago I was told divorce is like death. When there are no children, that is often true because there is no tie that keeps two people together. That other person is just all of sudden gone one day. People do get back together. Sometimes it works, sometimes not. Not much advice except to stop wondering how she feels and move on. Best of luck to you. Lee

I've only been separated for 5 wees and a bit, but I know my H is having regrets...I know him and it's not easy for him to do this to us. Maybe I'm just being charitable, but I think they all have regrets, it's what they do to hide this that is their problem.<P>For example, they blame YOU, they cut off contact, they are brusque when they see you, or unfeeling, they project a happy image; it's all a mask. I know this because I am currently supported best by a lady who was a WS and she contantly tells me about this mask she put on for her h. She couldn't maintain it with others, as my h can't either. So YES she is feeling remorse, she just doesn't want to show you!!!!<P>Nina