Guys,<BR>Been plan A'ing constantly. Even babysat my boys for my wife on her weekend to keep them. Went to get the kids and she looked great. Was going out with a married girlfriend. I told her she looked great and she said nothing. Saturday she came by our house to get the kids and again she looked great. She said nothing when I told her. Sunday she seemed so depressed and down. Per our agreement, she is to take the kids to church when she has them, and I do when I have them. I have kept everything in the agreement. She said she "didnt feel like it". I told her that I would get them and take them if she "couldnt". I told her this before, but still she will not call me to do it. Also, found out that her dad (she lives with him) took it upon himself to take OUR kids aside and tell them that it is best for mommy and you kids to never live with daddy anymore because when they get back together he will start drinking and doing drugs. She SAID she didnt know and he told her after. She did NOT confront him about it. I am so pissed off right now. She did not participate in working out the separation agreement, he did, she will not discuss anything (unless its about money or me babysitting). Everyone is telling me something stinks! The fact that in July she said she still loved me and now she will not say anything (she says "does it matter"). I think she is seeing someone. Any help would be appreciated.<P>What should I do if there is something going on? Why wont she just tell me and let me move on in life.<P>

Hi RobC.<P>I think for the most part its Daddy taking up for his little girl. So she can pass the load over to him and he'll take care of it. I see a couple of problems w/ this, unforunatly all bad. in that she isn't dealing with anything and it will all catch upto her later and at that time it may be to late for you. <P>1st. I would say that daddy should not interject himself in your affairs. She is your wife, 1st, and his daughter 2nd.. If you say something to her about him, she will defend hois actions and be concidered a major LB as he has become her security blanket. <P>You're right it does stink in that you are damned if you do and damned if you don't. Stick to your guns and keep Plan A alive for now. <P>Why wont she just tell me and let me move on in life... To this I would say its probably guilt. And, like I said before it'll hit her sometime. <P>Just don't let your imagination run crazy. Don't OVER react, let hert have her space. <P>Tex.