Hi All,<P>I am D now 2 mos, was married 15 years (together 20).<P>Someone told me that once you are married 10 years, and if your XS dies, you receive their Social Security Funds/Benefits. Does anyone know this to be true.<P>I never heard this before. What would happen if they re-married? Wouldn't the current H/W receive it instead???<P>Jo<P>------------------<BR>"Remain flexible like a reed, as opposed to an oak which can snap in the wind"

You are eligible if your XS has died. You (and your children if any) are eligible for survivor's benefits. You only get benefits if you are caring for his children under age 16 or 18 (I forget). Otherwise you have to be 65 or over.<P>When you turn 65, you will be eligible for your benefits, or for an amount equal to 1/2 of your XS's if greater than your amount. Doesn't matter whether your XS remarries, don't know if it matters if you remarry (probably does?).

Hi Jo.<P>I hope you look at this again. The last time I took the time to write to you you never checked it again!<P>My mom has just had this happen to her. She applied for my Dad's SS. She has been married twice, 15 years each, and she had her choice to which spouse's SS she could apply for 1/2 of. Once the decsion made, she gets the money. It is because she is not married at this time.<P>I am working with a lawyer to get a handle on property settlement. First step in divorce. He is still seeing OW. he has definitely moved on. He still needs to communicate better, it is hard to arrange kids' schedules without good communication.<P>I wish I had gotten through to you on the phone, I've stopped trying. I don't call AZ Alli any more either. She never returns messages. It is a great loss to me. I miss you guys! Well, all luck to you both. Life moves on...