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I've shared that my hubby and I have been separated for a couple of weeks for the 2nd time. There is no infedility going on on either end. He says he loves me so much but just can't take the fighting and my controlling nature. He gave me the "feels trapped" and "needs space" lines. We see each other every day and are still having sex. Now I know sex is one of his biggest needs and I'm trying to meet his needs. But my question is this: is this a case of having his cake and eating it too? I know in my heart that I am the only one sexually for him right now and want to keep it that way. My philosophy is that if he is getting his need met by me he wont have to wander elsewhere? Does my thinking make sense? Any input is appreciated.<BR>Laura
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As long as you are both actively working on and committed to your marriage and getting marriag counseling I think separation is healthy. Is there a goal you are working toward and are you both working towards that goal? <P>I dont' know if it is a case of having his cake and eating it too. I really don't know if being separated and having sex too is the right thing to do...<P>but BIG MYTH: if he is getting his need met by me he wont have to wander elsewhere - NO that is not true. <P>
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Notheard--<BR>Thanks for your input...we really haven't had a lot of time yet to be actively working on the marriage...we have however talked about what we want and how we feel about each other. I'm hopeful at this point. About your comment that if his needs are being met he won't wander being a BIG MYTH...I wasn't implying that that is always the case. I was just saying that if he wants sex, I don't want him to get it from anyone else (although I doubt he would). We have made an agreement to remain faithful to each other. <BR>Laura<BR>
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