My story is posted about a week or two ago i guess<P> wife breaks withstraining order yesterday and calls me.<BR>Madonna concert in Atlanta, Monday, she wants the tickets.<BR>Tried telling her i loved her and seeing if there was anyway we could try to work things out before we get divorced. I asked her if she wanted a divorce and she said yes, i asked her if she would goto marriage counseling one time just to see if there was any chance of saving our marriage and she said no. also said she loves me but she is not in love with me( that really pissed me off).i havn't talked to her in two months, im almost positive the only reason she called was to get the tickets, she said she wanted me to take a step and prove myself to her, that step is giving her the tickets. I said if it was step she was asking me to take that i would do it and she expects me to take the tickets to a friend of hers today. I don't have time today and am sure she will call i don't know what to say and i know what she is asking me to take a step towards if she still loves me but isn't in love with me and still wants a divorce. also i missed 6 calls in the middle of the night last night all "private id" i woke up at 4 oclock and heard the phone ringing but i missed it and im 99 percent positive it was her. what do i do?

Unfortunately-<BR>Buying her Madonna tickets will not put your marriage back together.<BR>hahahahahaha- and Madonna is such a good example of pure and wholesome relationships <BR>I'm sorry- I wouldn't give her the tickets- make her a deal maybe- one counseling session per ticket <BR>Hey- it could happen!! She sounds like a "material girl" at the moment! (sorry- I couldn't resist- I had a bunch of other ones too!!) <P>DON'T BUY HER THE TICKETS MAN!!!<BR>From the Female "yes I do know how to use my feminine whiles to get what I want" perspective.<BR>TLFM <BR>

Hi John,<P>I'm assuming the tickets were originally bought for you and her? I had a similar thing happen when we split for three weeks (years ago). I gave him the tickets.<P>If you can manage it at all, I suggest you get them to the friend today...can you call the friend and ask them to come to you? Do it somehow, because otherwise it will be a LB. It will at least let her know you do care and are willing to do things for her.<P>Y'know, since my h left we have been getting a few football videos from Oz. He tried to pick up the first one but didn't have time. I had offered at the time he said no. Then he comes in and says "You will have to pick it up, I don't have the time." Not please, no asking, I just said okay and I did. There have been three times I've just gone to get them and they are waiting for him when he comes. NOT once has he thanked me. <P>My point? Do it, but don't expect anything for doing it. She WILL appreciate it but she ain't gonna tell you that.

That's an excellent point...what was the <B>original</B> intent of the tickets? If they were for both of you, then you answer is simple...she has provided it for you. <B>Take her to the concert.</B> How better to 'prove' something to her? If she refuses to go, tell her that you will give her one ticket, and you will go with the other.<P>Hey, this is not junior high school, although welcome back to it...because that is where <I>her</I> head is at, and until you can convince her otherwise, she is in control of the relationship.<P>You need to be adult enough for both of you...you need to be strong enough for both of you, you are carrying the entire burden here, now....you do know that don't you?<P>I feel for you, I'm in the same situation now, and its hard to do this, but you get better at it if you can put up with a lot of stuff that doesn't make sense at first! Go slowly, and pray alot! -Mike

i appreciate everyones response<BR>nina im gonna take your advice and give her the tickets but i would like to hold out until she calls me just so i can ask her exactly what she is asking me to take a step towards, i would love to know who she is taking to the concert with her but i guess i won't ask but im sure that will be an lb, i also am getting very worried about the way that i feel towards her because if she does call me i don't think i will tell her that i love her anymore because i can't stand to hear her tell me she loves me now that she has stated she loves me but she is not in love with me.<BR>my heart hurts so bad right now the zoloft is no longer helping.

Yeah, it's not helping me much right now either...just when you need it to.<P>I was SO tempted to say what Mike said about going with her, or just give her HER ticket. He's right that it is extremely childish to expect you to give yours up just because she says so. It's a tough choice...hope someone can help. And here's a cyber cuddle for your heart<P>((((((((((((((((joconnor)))))))))))))))))))