My wife basically states I should see other people..<P>I'm not yet divorced, not that she cared about that whole marriage vow thing.<P>I'm just wondering if she blowing smoke, cause I don't think she would be too happy if I did start seeing other people.

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Forsaken:<BR><B>I'm just wondering if she blowing smoke, cause I don't think she would be too happy if I did start seeing other people.</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Dude, there are plenty of ways of making your wife think you're dating without actually doing it. And it really might just make her jealous. Score one for you!<P>I don't know your story, but my wife and I are seperated. The next time she calls I'm going to say "Sorry, but I'm heading out for the evening. Can I call you back later tonight?" And then of course not call her for a few days or more. If she asks about who I'm going out with, I say "Oh, just a friend." If she says "Is it a woman?" I say, "Hey, look at the time I really got to run. Call you later. Bye" Click.<P>Right now my wife doesn't want me to know/ask about her affair. So she has no reason to expect that I'm going to sit here and not go out. I don't have to go out on a date, hell I don't want to, but I can make her think my life is going on without her just fine.<P>It might work, it might backfire, right now I'm just experimenting.<P>

I think if you decide to date, it should be because you want to date not because of your wife. And, I'm sure you know that dating during your divorce or even shortly thereafter is not recommended for many reasons so I won't even go there. I could tell you my story but it is the same one you hear over and over from people who get in relationships at this stage.<P>But, back to your question, I think it is hard to know how she will really react if you started dating. I don't think she even truly knows how she would feel. Until you are actually in a situation, I think it is impossible to know.<P>I will say one thing, my x admitted to me recently that he really didn't like when I started dating after our divorce, although at the time, he acted like it didn't bother him a bit. He didn't admit it bothered him until a year later. And, I must admit, that was comforting to hear. It made me feel like I meant a little bit to him after all those years together. <P>