After almost 2 years of sepperating, getting back together, sepperating, divorcing, and 2 ex girlfriends in there, my ex and I are talking on good terms again. (If you read Nellies post about anyones spouses being decent) You'll see my post where I wrote that my Ex H. was just perfect in <BR>**MY** eye's. All except his cheating. Now after almost 10 months apart, he KNOWS he loves me and wants to work things out. I have never denied my love for him, but one of us had to be the grown up and so I let him go without a fight. I figured if he truely loved me as much as I, him. He would find a way back. He has agreed to move to another state for some time to try and work on some problems himself with counseling. He and my Ex-Best friend were sleeping together and this is the 1 thing I can not forgive them for. I realize that if there's a chance in hell for us, I too need counseling, but I just can't seem to even think about it let alone talk about it. If he honestly loves me as much as he says, and I know how much I am still in love with him, is it too late for us? 14 years is too much time to sweep away, but I am still hurting so bad from this affair. I feel like I need to fight harder for our life back. How do you fight against an attacker that you know is always going to be there? (as in this pain) <BR>By the way, we never could have children, so they arn't an issue here. <BR>Thanks, Dar

I am sorry for your pain, I feel that forgiveness is for you not for him, trying to forgive and let go of the past is what has helped me move on in what seems to be a hoeless situation for me, it sounds like there might be some hope for you. I do understand that a person can take only so much. I think that is what plan B is for so you can save what love you have. Take care of yourself<P>