Now I know you said that you have any reason to believe there is an OW and you could very well be right. But I do want to explain to you a little about my husband. As I told you he is a feelings man, he acts on sudden whims and impulses, his current feelings. In saying that there could very well be OW. But before he left, he was very angry, stressed out and frustrated. He is the type of person that has to be in control and does not like to play by the rules, not for long anyway. He gets bored and frustrated with situations and constantly needs change, excitement, commotion, disorder, catastrophe, you name it. He has always been a very hard worker and works very long hours but he frequently quits jobs and leaves unexpectedly. This past March, he quit a very good job without having another lined up and was out of work for two months. It's not the first time this has happened. He didn't sit on his a**, he got out there and worked but because he put himself in a disadvantage situation, his pay was very low. Then he took that travel job where he up and left. But he is constantly running away and leaving situations. He does it with jobs and living places. In 14 years, he has had 11 jobs and we have moved 10 times. So in leaving me, yes it is possible there is OW especially when you consider his need for constant thrill and excitement. But I have been told by friends for years that H is not a skirt chaser. As a matter of fact, that's the one thing about him that I always could count on is that he was faithful. If that's the case now is a different story but it's not like it's ever been a problem in the past. I always heard very good things about him regarding that issue. Now if there is not an OW involved with his life at this point or an OW comes along, I'm sure he'll take the opportunity. If there is an OW involved or he meets an OW, I will be in really BIG trouble because of his "Dive in head first" personality. He jumps into things without checking them out, then moves full steam ahead until he has everything all screwed up or until he reaches his destinantion. The one thing that I have in my favor is that he frequently starts projects and then doesn't finish them - yes there I go Mike - I'm peeling that onion, just like you told me to do. I have to hope that this divorce kick that he is on turns into one of those unfinished projects. As far as if there is an OW or not, only time will tell. Keep giving me advice. Thanks.