Another quick little update. My husband just left from picking up our son and he actually gave me a hug when he left. I feel that was a big step for him. This has been one of my EN's that he has not been able to meet in a long time. It made me so happy to see this breakthrough.<P>We also had some very nice conversation. He stayed for about an hour and then took our son (2.5 years) for a boys night out and to give me a break.<BR>

Michelle,<BR> Your list is the same as what I want in mine. I have told my H to make arrangements to move out. It's not as easy since we are overseas and we live onbase. But I want him out of our house to see how it would feel not to have us around him. Your list from 1 to number 7 is exactly how my husband is.<BR>Hope things would continue to work out for you. I'm still hoping ours would...in time.

Hi guys... been out of commission for a couple of days playing Mrs. Bob Vila on our new house! <P>Anyway, DBT has a GREAT point about not looking at the day to day reading... or meeting by meeting encounters... just take it a month at a time... maybe on the first, or like whenever you pay bills, pull out your "relationship meter journal" and write down how things are going in general... that way, you will see the overall flow of the relationship and not the ebb and flow of the tide in your relationship that tends to me you (well, all of us) feel so lousy!<P>Take care!<P>Nicole <P>------------------<BR><I>"You will deceive yourself into believing that if people, circumstances, and events had been different, your pain would not exist...Your pain is the concrete way in which you participate in the pain of humanity."</I> <BR>~ Henri Nouwen ~

Your situation sounds like you two will be able to work things out--I truly hope you do. I know how you feel when things are going well, then hit a snag and feel like a giant step backwards. My husband and I have been having problems the past few months--but this last week has been really good. It is scary--waiting for the other shoe to fall. I know it will take a lot of time to get things to how they should be, but also know how exciting and hopeful the baby-steps forward feel. Keep doing what you are doing--I think he & you will eventually work things out--but remember it will take time. Even though we want it to happen overnight--have to be patient. I ask God to give my husband and I patience, love, understanding, strength & trust to get throught this difficult time. Think these are 5 very important things at this time. <BR>Be patient--think it will all work out for you two.